What happens when your brain finally reveals trauma it’s been hiding from you for decades? In this powerful conversation, reality television personality Lannette West shares the transformative moment when she uncovered repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse while standing in her bathroom mirror, finally seeing herself with compassion.
- Lannette takes us through her journey of addiction, overachievement, and feeling “like an alien on this planet” before understanding the root cause of her behaviors.
- The revelation came in her late 40s, explaining a lifetime of disconnection, shame, and the belief that she was fundamentally flawed.
- With remarkable vulnerability, she describes how therapy helped her understand that her thoughts weren’t necessarily her beliefs—a concept that revolutionized her relationship with herself.
- Host Sylvia Worsham connects through her own experiences with childhood trauma, highlighting how these early wounds shape our neural pathways and belief systems in ways that affect every aspect of our lives, from career choices to parenting styles.
- Together, they explore practical healing approaches, from ketamine therapy creating a “fresh snowfall” over well-worn mental pathways to the power of simply speaking one’s truth aloud.What makes this episode particularly moving is Lannette’s determination to transform her suffering into purpose through writing, public speaking, and using her platform to help others feel less alone. After a vulnerable moment on reality television sparked hundreds of messages from viewers who related to her emotional breakdown, she discovered her calling to destigmatize conversations about trauma, mental health, and self-worth.
- Follow Lannette on Instagram @LannetteWest to connect with her directly and watch for her upcoming book. Remember her powerful mantra when facing your own challenges: “This too shall pass.”
- To read a free chapter of host, Sylvia Worsham’s bestselling book, In Faith, I Thrive, head to her webpage www.sylviaworsham.com.
Transcript:
Speaker 1:
If you’ve ever struggled with fear, doubt or worry and wondering what your true purpose was all about, then this podcast is for you. In this show, your host, sylvia Worsham, will interview elite experts and ordinary people that have created extraordinary lives. So here’s your host, sylvia Worsham.
Speaker 2:
Hey Lightbringers, it’s Sylvia Worsham. Welcome to Release Reveal Purpose. And today is Lynette West, and I read her biography on Podmatch and I was blown away because she’s in reality television. But to land here you go through a lot in life. It’s not a linear path. We know that for a fact and our purpose gets delivered to us the more we step in faith and encourage and in confidence. So, without further ado, lynette, thank you so much for joining us on Released Out Reveal Purpose.
Speaker 3:
Oh, thanks for having me, Sylvia. It’s a pleasure to be here.
Speaker 2:
It’s a pleasure to have you. Where are you at right now, Lynette?
Speaker 3:
Well, I am working from home. Today I’m in Cary, North Carolina, which is a suburb of Raleigh.
Speaker 2:
That’s wonderful. That’s wonderful. I love Raleigh, I love North Carolina and it just it’s a beautiful area. I wish we were there because of the weather. It’s way better than Austin, texas. Right now my daughter is like not happy with her baseball camp being outside. It’s going to be really hot for her, but I’m sure she’ll enjoy it Bits and pieces. But do tell us a little bit of your story of transformation. I’d love to get into it.
Speaker 3:
Sure, it’s interesting because I feel like my whole life I’ve had episodes of transformations, right, I think the biggest one and the most self-aware coming of age really was in the past few years. I had battled addiction Cocaine was my drug of choice and I literally was standing in my bathroom and had a revelation. My brain started sending me images, flashbacks that I had had in isolation throughout my life pages, flashbacks that I had had in isolation throughout my life, and this was the first time I’d gotten sober in in a while. So I think, through my sobriety and through my you know work of finally having some compassion for myself, that my brain was like okay, she can handle this now and started to reveal things from my past and it it told a very sad, sad story. And again, to backtrack a little bit, throughout my lifetime I’d had these flashbacks in isolation and I had never had any context for them. It’s like I would have this memory and go.
Speaker 3:
That’s weird, that doesn’t make sense. For instance, when we moved to Silva when I was in the third grade, while my mother was attending Western Carolina University, I recall my grandparents helping us move and after they were, you know, getting everything settled and they were ready to leave. I remember looking at my grandfather and saying bye, and I was so excited that I didn’t have to see him again. I thought, yay, I never have to see this man again, like we’ve moved, I’m away from him. And he said oh, honey, you know I’ll see you next weekend. And my heart sank and I was like damn. And I had that memory and I never understood why I didn’t want to see my grandfather, because I had always had a great relationship with him that I recall he died when I was like eight or nine, back in 81, 82. And so it’s memories like that. And there were other little more explicit memories, again in isolation, and I had never put them all together until that morning that I was standing in my bathroom looking at myself with an ounce of compassion for the first time in my life, and my brain started sending me the slideshow of these flashbacks.
Speaker 3:
There were like eight to 10 of them, just one after the other, after the other, in quick succession, and then on repeat. It’s like. It’s like my brain was sending me these messages until I got it. And then I finally got it. I knew that I had been traumatized, I’d been molested by him, and it was the biggest transformation, I think, of my life, because for the first time things started to make sense. I started to get to the root of why I behave the way I behave, because a lot of times my behavior is kind of peculiar and out of bounds. So, again, it’s not an excuse for my poor behavior at times, but it just gave me so much understanding and even more compassion for myself and I think, honestly, that was the biggest transformation of my life.
Speaker 2:
I cannot relate, because it’s a tough situation to realize when you’re young. Your mind blocks it. You don’t understand why it blocks it. You just know deep inside of you a piece is missing, why it blocks it. You just know deep inside of you a piece is missing.
Speaker 2:
And for me it was a trauma I incurred with my dad, and it wasn’t anything like your grandfather, but my mind blocked it.
Speaker 2:
For, let’s see, I was seven and until I was 21 years old, it revealed it to me and it just came out of nowhere. My father made a comment and I remember just getting so angry and then, somewhere deep inside of me, this voice just comes out saying and you remember what you said to me, and I didn’t even know where it came from. And it was this huge revelation and this huge weight lifted off my heart, and I’m sure it was the same for you, but at the same time lifted off my heart, and I’m sure it was the same for you. But at the same time it’s also the realization that something bad happened to us and now we need to gather that knowledge and actually do something with it, because it’s okay to be aware Now it’s taking that awareness and designing a way out of that darkness, and so can you tell us a little bit of how you got yourself out of that dark space, once you realized what had happened?
Speaker 3:
Right, because my initial response was very visceral. I literally vomited in the middle. I was out of control of my body and it was almost like an out of body experience, because coming to terms with that was, you know, in that moment, was it was so overwhelming, the emotions were so big that literally I just my body couldn’t handle it. And yeah, so it took me, you know, a good bit of time to kind of gather myself and get cleaned up and and really start to process what was going on with me. But you know, over the coming days and weeks I worked with my therapist and we started unpacking it and again, everything just started falling into place. And when I told her, I said, oh my God, you’re not going to believe this.
Speaker 3:
And my psychiatrist was like, uh, it’s not a stretch, lynette, like I totally get it, like it would make sense of why you’re in the position that you’re in today, Um, and why I always felt like an alien on this planet. I never felt I belonged here. I was always convinced that I had been born in the wrong body at the wrong time. I never felt a connection with my body, this earth, this planet or other people. I was disassociating a lot and again it just started all falling into place and then I started doing some real work about okay, I have this information, now what am I going to do with it?
Speaker 3:
And one of the things I have found to be incredibly helpful is simply talking about it, because it is so shameful and embarrassing and most all the families I’ve come across anyway nobody wants to talk about it.
Speaker 3:
No, I mean, I have my own family members, one in particular that is in utter denial. She will not admit what had happened to her or acknowledge what had happened to me, and it’s mind boggling because for me, my intuition, my motivation, my gumption is telling me get this story out. People need to hear this and, selfishly, in a lot of ways it heals me in the process, because it’s like I’m unpacking generations of bullshit that I’ve been carrying around my whole life and not understanding it. And so I get a little frustrated because, you know, I’m sure there are people that know me and people that don’t know me that are like why do you feel so compelled to get in such a forum like this? It’s so public and air your dirty laundry if you will. And I don’t see it as airing my dirty laundry. What I see is sharing an experience that other people can relate to and hopefully empowering them to find their voice too.
Speaker 2:
And I can totally agree with you on that, and I can understand why people say that, to say, hey, you are unpacking your dirty laundry. Well, no, what you’re unpacking is the shame. That is your unpacking. You’re unpacking the shame and you’re making it so real and so honest and so tangible that it is taking the stigma away, completely, taking the stigma away from it, because a lot of people will take their life. Something like this happens to them because they feel so alone in the journey and when someone like you comes around and uses your celebrity to shed light on a topic like shame and sexual abuse it is very important and I commend you for that, because it takes an enormous amount of courage and vulnerability to open your heart to the world and say look, this happened to me and there’s no shame in this.
Speaker 2:
We were little, we didn’t have control over what an adult did to us, because what shame does is shame tells us we are bad, absolutely.
Speaker 3:
I’m a bad person.
Speaker 2:
I’m a bad person because this happened to me and some people can’t get past that and they’ll stay in those dark chapters forever, and that’s not what the journey of life is about. The journey of life is for us to shed our light, to really like, showcase our light and use our gifts better humanity because and that’s what happens in collaboration with each other I I’m using my light to shed some light on you and sharing in this podcast, but a lot of people don’t see that because we were taught and modeled that that is shameful and we need to keep it secret because it involves our family. Right, and I know that when I released my book last year, in 2020, I remember the first story was the story of that trauma with my dad, and I remember going to my dad and asking his permission to use that story and he said if it’s going to help a parent be a better parent, please use it. I made a mistake. I apologize for it, but I feel bad because you were little and I and what had happened was that we were on vacation and I had insisted on going up the summit and we were in Mexico city and and we came from South Texas, so the altitude is a very big difference.
Speaker 2:
And then my sister was very little, I was seven, she was two, and as we climbed we played with snow and everything. And then she tripped and my father blamed me for her accident and said if she died it would be my fault. And I was so little and my brain just blocked it completely. And so what a psychiatrist let her explain to me was he transferred his parental responsibilities onto you and you became a mom overnight, and that’s what happened. I lost, like my innocence, my childhood, and so did you. You lost your innocence and you lost your childhood, and that’s why you felt like an alien, like that didn’t belong in this earth, because it makes us feel awkward, like we don’t fit in, and so that with that comes a lot of other situations in our life. Do kind of shed some light on that, like how did you as a kid kind of to help women out there that have maybe had this happen to them feel a little less alone? Can you shed some light on that?
Speaker 3:
yeah, um. Well, what’s interesting is, um, I mean, there were a lot of other things going on in my childhood as well, but what it? What it made me become is like this overachieving woman, child, teenager who felt like she had to earn love. And the way I did that was by making straight A’s, you know, being the captain of the tennis team, winning the state championship and doing all of these really remarkable things that when I accomplished them, didn’t feel special at all. There was, you know, I mean, it was great, I was like, you know, you like the attention that you get from it, but it there was such a hole, there was a crater in my soul that it didn’t even come close to, you know, closing it. So it was this, you know, constant desire to achieve and get accolades, only to be disappointed because it never filled me up.
Speaker 3:
And I spent you know, I never talked to anybody about these things the first time I ever shared how I felt about myself and how I couldn’t really look at myself in the mirror and, mind you, I was 48, 49 years old when this happened. This was a few years ago. It was when I talked to my psychiatrist, when I had decided to get clean. That was the first time that I ever told anybody, because she asked me she’s like you know, what does your voice tell you? And I just I was embarrassed, I didn’t want people to know that I talked to myself the way I do, that I felt about myself the way I do, that I felt so shameful and embarrassed and how bad I just felt about myself. I felt gross. I felt I thought I was trash, I thought I was stupid, I thought I was ugly. It never convinced me otherwise because that voice in my head was so, so powerful and it had been speaking to me for, you know, 48 years. That’s a long time. Those pathways in my brain are well entrenched, they are very comfortable, they are very familiar.
Speaker 3:
But just sharing that and having someone ask me, I mean that’s the first time anybody in my life has ever asked me you know, how do you feel about yourself, or how do you talk to yourself, or anything like that, and I shared it. And once I did, I mean it was. You know I cried a lot and it was. It was kind of a relief to get it out, to let other people know, because I had had suicidal ideations my whole life and I had always been preoccupied with this notion that I would not live to be an old person, that I would die young. It was like something I just knew. I just knew that I wouldn’t. I wasn’t here for the duration, and it’s sad to think of that, and sometimes I even still find myself getting preoccupied with those thoughts that I better hurry up and do what I need to do, because I know I’m not going to be here forever, which I’m not. But you’re dying young and dying, you know, in your 80s or 90s. There’s a difference.
Speaker 3:
But I guess what I would tell others who may find themselves in a similar situation is you have to talk to somebody, and I would recommend talking to somebody who understands this that can guide you through the process. I often liken this to if you wanted to take a safari in Africa. Are you just going to go by yourself and rent a Jeep and find some desert land or some jungle and go explore? Oh hell, no. You’re going to find an experienced guide.
Speaker 3:
Someone who lives there, someone who knows where all the dangers are, knows where the animals are, can help you have the best experience possible with it. Well, your psychiatrist or your therapist, they’re our guides. That’s what they’re here for and I would very much encourage and I know it’s not always possible because of you know God forbid things with insurance and what have you but sometimes just finding a confidant, a friend, a family member, someone you can trust, that you know, you don’t feel like is going to judge you and they don’t even have to offer any replies, but just to listen, just for you to speak it into the world and release, it, is so incredibly powerful, I think.
Speaker 2:
It is, it is. I know I was working with a therapist when that breakthrough came, because my parents were, like you’re, always so angry. We don’t understand why. I didn’t understand why. I have no idea, but you just know that something’s off. And, like you, I also.
Speaker 2:
The shame was so great because I was this bad person I had almost caused my sister to die that I achieved to fill that void. And so, as you were speaking, I was like, oh yes, this is so typical because it’s the way we view being better, like a better person, is based on what you do, and when you live in the United States, that’s what you see every day. You see it subliminally. That’s why, on the subconscious level, it’s very important to know what you’re watching and the environments you’re in, because they feed and they influence the way you see yourself and that identity that you contain. So to start getting or shifting out of there, we have to start doing things differently than the way we grew up, because otherwise that generational trauma kind of follows us into the next generation.
Speaker 2:
I actually woke up the other day and asked myself what is the generational stuff? I need to stop right now so that my daughter and my son don’t have to go to therapy and don’t have to figure this out. So I sat there and I had a list of things that were passed down from one generation to the next and no one had stopped. One of them for me was when I get afraid, when I feel that panic rise in me, I tend to react in anger, the way my father did, which is what happened on that mountain. And I vowed I was like I will not be that person, I will stop it now. And so when that panic rises in my throat, then I have a new habit I have established and I just kind of bring myself into the present moment so that my mind doesn’t take me into the future, of the what ifs. And once I’m in the present moment, then I can respond logically, because now it’s not emotionally, it’s not this crazy loop or that crazy neural pathway that has been ingrained in us to respond a certain way based on a feeling we’re getting so like.
Speaker 2:
For example, for me, doubt shows up, that whole pathway gets activated, and so I’ve got to have a plan in place to stop it dead in its tracks. And where I stop it is at the thought. When the thoughts start to come inside my head trying to rile up my feelings. That’s where I stop it, because if I don’t stop it there, it goes on to the feeling and once the feeling is there, it’s really hard to stop it. I mean, you can do it. I’m not saying it’s impossible, this is a little bit harder. It’s easier to stop it at the thought before it goes crazy and just replace it. And I know that probably what your therapist also helped you with is trying your tools, like to get you back into the present moment, to create new neural pathways. What were those for you?
Speaker 3:
It’s interesting you bring that up because that’s exactly what I was thinking about and I’m not sure what your take is on medications and treatments like ketamine. But I’ve done several rounds of ketamine treatments and the way it was explained to me is that in our mind we have what we really refer to as ruts, like thought ruts, like they’re such established well pathways, kind of like when you’re skiing down a mountain, people tend to ski in the same path in these ruts. Well, your brain can get that way, so those thoughts just naturally gravitate towards those previous pathways, with those negative, hurtful thoughts. And what the ketamine does, as my psychiatrist so eloquently explained to me, is ketamine is like a fresh snowfall. It covers up all the ruts and it now allows you to pick the path you want to take down the mountain. You get to pick the path of the thoughts that you want to have. And when she first explained to me that I could accept or reject my thoughts, my life changed, and I’m talking again.
Speaker 3:
I was in my late 40s. I thought my thoughts were my beliefs. I thought I’m thinking it. Oh, my God, I must believe it, otherwise why would I think it? Or if it was something like a to do. I thought every thought I had was actionable, like if I thought, oh, I should go and do this, I would go and do it. Actionable Like if I thought, oh, I should go and do this, I would go and do it.
Speaker 3:
I didn’t know that I could stop, take a step back, observe the thought, decide is this a good idea or not, is this a good thought or not? And accept or reject it. She cracks me up because she was like just think of your brain, like Radio K-Fuck. It’s just sending signals, sending signals, sending out just crazy shit, you know, just random shit. And it’s just sending signals, sending signals, sending out just crazy shit, you know, just random shit. And it’s your job to engage that thinking part of your brain to learn what to accept and what to reject, what to act on and what to deny. And to me, that was probably one of the, if not the most pivotal point in my therapeutic sessions I’ve ever had, because I’m not a stupid person, I’m formally educated, but I had no idea that my thoughts weren’t my beliefs.
Speaker 2:
And it none of us. You know, we’re all very intelligent, but none of us really understand the mind until you have something like this happen and then somebody can come in and explain it to you. When I became a coach and I was going through the certification process, it was like all these light bulbs were like clicking in my mind and all these dots that were once random dots, now made, we’re all connected. Now they made sense as to why I believed what I believed, you know, because what happens? The beliefs can drive the thoughts they can, and they’re so deeply within our subconscious mind because they developed long ago. The belief created itself after an experience in our life, whether good or bad, because we have good experiences, like we have bad ones and ugly ones, and all of them can be tied to a belief that you create, like in my case, after that trauma with my dad. The belief was I don’t trust myself to make the right decisions, and I didn’t realize it was in my subconscious until, like I started, it actually impacted the way I was handling my finances, to give you an example. It’s the strangest thing that can happen, but the mind creates these pathways and you’re right, you can. Certain medications can help you stop and pause, because some people biologically have more like less dopamine, less everything, and so some of these medications can actually help in in helping you develop new neural pathways. But you also have to do the work that that the therapist and the psychiatrist is telling you to do the changing of the habits, the changing of the thoughts, the affirmations that start to shift that belief of I’m not good enough or I’m not a good person to I am a good person, and here’s the evidence in my life. This is what is the evidence, and you start dispelling those lies based on the things, the whole of you, instead of these pieces that are informing the whole right, the whole identity that you’re holding. So I’m with you.
Speaker 2:
I think there are some people that do benefit from medication, some of us don’t, and so that’s where you have to kind of balance it and say, okay, what what I tried medication for, for what I was suffering from? I have um OCD and I have um ADD and, and a lot of it is rooted in my anxiety. So, right right after I nearly died in 2012, it got triggered. But when they pulled my genetics, they also saw that my parents have both passed on the gene of not having enough dopamine in my system. So that makes sense why I would have anxiety and I would have focus issues. And so the doctor said well, we can do supplements with you if you don’t want to do medication. And so that’s what I’m doing. I’m doing supplements, but I’m also helping the supplement out by getting enough sleep, because we know that sleep also impacts the way we think and the way we react to situations, and nutrition is also a big portion of issues with focus.
Speaker 2:
So I do it in different ways and I do believe that there are different avenues and I’m very open to all the different avenues because everyone has had success in different ways, and so this podcast is really to kind of shed light on all the different ways that can be beneficial, especially when you’ve had these generational traumas occur to you and you’re going through therapy and I do agree with you get help, because some of this stuff, this darker stuff in our mind, we require someone that is trained to get deeper into our minds and then be able to pull us out of there after the session, because when we go so deep into our minds and we go back into that space, it can be very painful, some people can’t get out of there, but these guys are trained to pull us out and bring us back to the present moment where our mind is not making all those crazy connections for us.
Speaker 2:
So I think it’s important that what you’ve mentioned the psychiatry, the therapy I had EMDR therapy that dealt with this trauma and it works really well for me. And now I’m back in therapy to some of these things that I thought were gone are not gone, and it started to impact my parenting and my 10-year-old and I told myself I don’t want that, I don’t want to inform it based on trauma. And so I had trauma of being bullied in high school extensively, and some of the belief systems that formed in those years were still informing my parenting today, and so I said no, and so I went back to therapy and we’re just clearing them out one by one, you know, and then you feel like the cage lifts. It’s so amazing, it feels so good, and now I’m doing other other things to kind of prepare myself for the next season of my life. So do tell us, like you have a reality show right. Tell us, is this your purpose now or is this just seasonal?
Speaker 3:
Oh no, this is why I’m here on this planet. This is why I’ve experienced all the terrible things I have. I, in a selfish way, need to make sense of the suffering. I can’t think that I just suffered for the sake of suffering. I really think it’s because I was chosen to be the one to share the experience, to talk to people, to try to destigmatize this, to make people feel like they have a safe place to share what’s happened to them. It’s interesting because it’s like whenever I am like on the street or in a restaurant or at work or something, people, when I engage them in conversation, will just start telling me their life stories. And it’s like they’re like, you know, I just you’re just so nice and I feel so safe with you and I’m like, yeah, girl, because I’m not going to judge. Who the hell am I going to judge? You know, I’m not going to judge you. I’ve been through a lot of stuff too, so I really feel a calling to do that.
Speaker 3:
I don’t, you know, I don’t have any talents or gifts. I don’t play the piano, I don’t sing, I don’t play an instrument, but I have this knack for talking. I have this knack for talking. I have this knack for connecting with people and I feel like I need to utilize that in a way to benefit the most people possible. And so I, I really want to do public speaking engagements. I’m writing a book, oh good, good, good. I enjoy writing, that is. I consider that my gift too. Um, I have a knack for writing as well, and you know, I, just I even if it just affects one or two people, just if it makes a connection and makes someone go, you know that girl could do it, so can I. Yeah, then that makes it all the worthwhile. You know, I, I don’t have to like reach hundreds of thousands of people, like that’s not even the goal. The goal is just to make a difference, and that absolutely is why I’m on this planet.
Speaker 3:
And I think that’s why the opportunity to do the reality show came up, because on my last episode I left of my own volition and I did it in a very dramatic emotional way because I had a breakdown when the guy didn’t choose me or he chose someone over me.
Speaker 3:
It’s sort of all these feelings of inadequacy not being enough, no one loves me, I’m unlovable, all of that stuff, and all of it just came pouring out, and there happened to be five cameras standing around me, and so people saw that and related to it, and when it aired last year, it was airing this time last year people reached out on Instagram via DMs, and I mean I got hundreds, if not a thousand, of these messages from women saying things like oh my God, I relate to you, I feel the same way, or my daughter’s this way, or my mother’s this way, and I was like God, so I’m not the only one, like I thought I was the only damaged one in the group. You know, I didn’t realize that other people related on on such a level and that really gave me the impetus to do something about it. I mean, I’ve been thinking about it for a while, but it’s like you know, thinking is great, planning is great, but doing is better. Oh way way better.
Speaker 2:
The more you do it, the more you put yourself out there, the easier it gets. Actually, the easier it gets to step into that purpose. Because the fear of the unknown is what keeps us from stepping in there. And I know that because, as I interviewed men and women for the book, the biggest fear out there of change, anything to do with change, is fear of the unknown. I don’t know what’s going to happen. Well, none of us do really, because if God were to show us what our path would be like, we wouldn’t jump in there. We’d be like no, thank you, I’ll just stay here. Thank you very much, I appreciate it, but no, you know, I mean like if he had shown me the pulmonary embolism episode, I’d be like are you crazy? I don’t want to go there.
Speaker 2:
But then how life turns out is so much better when you have faith and you step in there with confidence and you have the attitude that you had and still have for the book, that all it takes is one person being transformed and we’ve fulfilled our purpose. Because our lives we’re all interconnected, we are all meant to impact each other’s lives and we’re all so uniquely built, our view of certain situations are so uniquely ours, because of the journey you have been on Only you can discuss it in your own unique way and perspective, and that’s why books are always one of the avenues that people can use to share their story to a much broader audience. Much broader audience, and it’s a way for you to heal, because as you write, you’re reflecting and you’re sitting with it, and a lot of what and I know your therapist has probably explained this to you is the more you work through those emotions, the less power they have over you.
Speaker 3:
Absolutely.
Speaker 2:
They just they start desynthesizing that the whole part of like EMDRs like. The more you discuss it, the less power it has over you. But when you write you know because I’ve written books it forces you to go back in time and really sit with it and that’s not easy to do. That it is. It takes a lot of discipline to do that, and so kudos to you for stepping into that space and saying yes to writing a book, because your book will turn into the survival guide for someone currently going through what you went through as a kid and that is going to impact their life in a way that will help them at times journey out of those dark chapters. That’s why you got so many people reaching out to you when they saw the authentic way in which you reacted when the guy didn’t pick you. It’s undeniable when people see the truth coming out and being revealed and they feel they can be themselves with you, they don’t have to pretend, because you’re not pretending anymore. Now you’re sharing your heart in a very authentic way and people respond to that very authentically and saying you know what I feel less alone in my journey, and that was my whole purpose behind writing the book. At first I was like God, what am I going to write about? Like who am I to share anything? And he’s like you have a very particular voice about turning points and change and how you’ve managed to go through change and the process you’ve gone through is what you need to discuss. And so I have a blueprint that I share with people in the book of when you go through major change this is going to happen to you and just realize that this is coming from the Father and to realize, to say yes to your soul’s purpose and to say yes to that guidance that’s telling you write your book. It’s time, trust me, because parts of us are healed that need to be healed right now for what’s coming in the future. And only he can see that.
Speaker 2:
And I’m glad I wrote my book because from chapter one to chapter 15, you see an entire evolution of my relationship with my father, from that trauma to full forgiveness and letting go and just being his friend the last four years of his life. And today’s a very particular day for me June 16th of last year, my father passed away, and so I always say he graduated into heaven. So the fact that I’m talking to you today and what you have revealed in this interview just gives me more peace, you know, knowing that what we do, we do it with a purpose and it’s a purpose that is meant to heal us and help us live our life to the fullest and shine our light in the brightest way possible. In the brightest way possible. So thank you for being so courageous and sharing your life and your story with us today. Any last minute words or if people wanted to contact you, like when your book gets released, how can we find you?
Speaker 3:
Yeah, thank you. I’m on Instagram. It’s Lynette L-A-N-N-E-T-T-E. It’s a funky spelling west, and feel free to DM me there and I think. As far as a final thought goes, I think I’m going to have this tattooed on my forearm. Actually, it’s something that I say all the time. It’s like this, too shall pass, and it’s sometimes a really good reminder to remember that those feelings are temporary, that this too shall pass, and sometimes we need to reflect on that when things get really dark.
Speaker 2:
I love it, so love it and I think you should do it. If you’re feeling a pull to do it, just do it. I’ll do it.
Speaker 3:
Okay, it hurts, but I’ll do it.
Speaker 2:
I’m not a big fan of needles. I’m like no, thank you, I’ll pass. I’m not a big fan of needles. I’m like no, thank you, I’ll pass. But to the listeners of Release, doubt, reveal, purpose, remember Matthew 514. Be the light, have a wonderful week, stay safe, love y’all.
Speaker 1:
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