You can build a great life and still feel like you’re failing if your identity is glued to being the fixer. I’m talking with Adaku Mbagwu, a firstborn daughter who went from childhood scarcity and taking on a “second mom” role to earning six figures young, then hitting a brutal turning point: depression, suicidal ideation, and a season of homelessness before she rebuilt from the inside out and grew a 2.4 million-pound business.
We get honest about what “firstborn daughter syndrome” can look like in real life: over-functioning, resentment, people-pleasing, money instability, and a quiet belief that love has to be earned. Adaku shares the coaching question that cracked everything open for her: “Who told you you had to do that?” From there we unpack the savior complex, codependency patterns, and how our subconscious beliefs can keep recreating the same outcomes even when our intentions are good.
If you’re a high-achieving woman, an eldest daughter, or someone healing trauma while trying to grow a business or lead a family, this conversation will give you language, clarity, and next steps.
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If you’ve ever struggled with fear and doubt or worry and wondering what your true purpose was all about, then this podcast is for you. In this show, your host, Sylvia Warsham, will interview elite experts and ordinary people that have created extraordinary lives. So here’s your host, Sylvia Warsham.
Hey Lightbringers, it’s Sylvia Warsham. Welcome to Release Start Review of Purpose. And today is Adaku Mbagu. She’s in Toulon, Mexico, and she has a quite a story to share with us. She’s someone that has scaled to 2.4 million pounds of a business, but before then came from a very dark space of homelessness and losing it all. And when you are in those pivotal spaces in life, I call them turning points, people call them pivot points. Same thing. It’s a space you get to, and you have two choices. You can either continue doing what you’re doing to get there, and that got you in this space to begin with, or you can choose to let change and the wisdom of change shift your lens and start doing something totally different. And it sounds like Adaku picked the ladder. So without further ado, Adaku, thank you so much for joining us from Mexico.
Thank you for having me. I’m so excited to have this conversation.
I’m excited too because I know that you have quite a story to share. So why don’t we just dive deeply? Tell us how you landed in this space of women empowerment and spiritual and working primarily with firstborn daughters.
So I think my life kind of got me here. If I’m being honest, the last thing I wanted to be was a coach. Um at the time that I transitioned into this line of work. Everyone was coaching, and I was like, oh, it’s just like saying I’m a used car salesman. I’d like no one wants to hear about it. But um it got to a point where it became undeniable. So I’m a firstborn daughter myself. I’m the second eldest of seven children, and um, I was born in Nigeria, moved to the UK when I was six years old, and we went from two extremes. We went from living a very abundant, rich lifestyle to being pretty broke. So a lot of my childhood memories was um going without electricity and doing homework around candlelight, going days without food, um, sometimes no gas, or having to wear outdoor jackets inside. And I remember there was a specific moment when I was walking to the uh supermarket with my mum and it was raining, and we were fighting with our umbrellas, and I felt that she wasn’t close, so I stopped and I turned around. And when I turned around, I realized that her sock had fallen through a hole in her shoe, and she was um lifting it up as it as she was walking, it was kind of falling more and more out of the hole, and that image kind of broke my heart. It was like my mum’s suffering, and this isn’t fair, so I have to do something, and that was the moment I kind of signed away my childhood, and things would drastically change. I um kind of stepped into the second mum role. Um, she divorced my dad, remarried, her second husband became schizophrenic three months after they got married, so she felt that that was her punishment for ending her marriage. So she stayed with him for 14 years, which meant that there was a void in the family to be filled, and that’s where I kind of took on the extreme end of being a firstborn daughter. I was cooking, I was cleaning, I was doing homework with my siblings in my own homework, making money from braiding hair and babysitting, and using that to help in the household. So I didn’t have the typical childhood, and that kind of followed me through life, and the benefit of that is that it gave me a real drive and motivation to become successful because I wanted to be a role model for my siblings, I wanted to take my family out of poverty, and it served me. So by 21, I was earning six figures, by 25, I was a partner in a startup recruitment business, and at that stage where I was a part partner, a lot of things in my life started breaking. So I was engaged to get married and realized that my childhood sweetheart wasn’t the person I was supposed to do the rest of my life with, so I ended my wedding four months before the day, which is till now the hardest decision I’ve had to make because our communities, our village was invested in our relationship, so a lot of people were angry at me, and um, that’s another story as to the reasons why. But then I was given an ultimate ultimatum at the startup I was working at that I either keep my opinions to myself or leave. I was like, I think this is a no-brainer, I’m gonna leave. I don’t like kind of someone giving me an ultimatum and trying to force um how I behave in terms of doing my job. I’m a partner and my opinions are supposed to be valid, so you’re not going to shut me up. And yeah, I went from ticking all the boxes, engaged to be married, high-flying job, to being single, unemployed, having to move back in with my mum because I couldn’t afford to live by myself in London. And at the time, me and my mum were clashing because I was resentful for her letting me play that role. So those circumstances happening all at the same time drove me into a depression. And I didn’t think I was a candidate for depression, I was always a strong one. So I was like, depressionists for people who have time and who are weak, and um, it definitely humbled me. And I was was able to kind of work through it the first time, and then I I worked through it by cutting my family off. I’m like, you’re the problem, so I’m gonna cut you off, which obviously wasn’t the resolution because it existed within me. So I felt better for a little while, and then I reintroduced my family and I fell into depression again. So I was like, if this is gonna be the rest of my life, I never want to feel like this again. And that’s when suicidal ideation came into place, suicide attempts, luckily they failed. And at that point, I was like, clearly, what I think because I thought I knew it all. I was the one every everyone came to, I was the one who had all of the solutions, and I’m like, I clearly don’t because I’m not functioning right now, I’m breaking down, I’m falling apart, I need another remedy. And that’s when I was introduced to a coach and started doing some work, and he was able to help me really understand how the circumstances from my childhood had created this persona that I was identifying with, and how that persona was creating these dynamics within my family members and all the things I was doing that I felt I had to do, and I was like, okay, if I’ve created this, then I need to create a new way of being which will get me new results. So I ended up moving out of my mum’s house, and that’s when I lived in my car because I couldn’t afford to stay anywhere. And I begged and pleaded with the council, the government organization, to get me some access to government housing, which I wasn’t entitled to because I didn’t have a child, that I showed them that I just come out of hospital, and someone took pity on me and allowed me to bid for properties, and within a few weeks I was able to secure my place, and that’s where I started healing and growing my business and the rest was history.
Oh my! There’s so much to unpack here. There’s just so much, and I can relate. We both are firstborn daughters, we both felt responsibility. I I felt a responsibility after a trauma with my father. You had it with your mother that you felt that you kind of blamed for allowing you to step into a role that was not yours but was hers. You mentioned something that I I’m really curious to ask you to dive a little bit deeper into. Describe or tell me more about the persona that the coach helped you identify.
Yeah, so one of the pivotal questions that he asked me was, um, why do you think you’re in this state? And I went into blame mode. Well, my mom treats me as an ATM, everyone thinks I’m a robot, and they just want to take, take, take, take, take, and no one thinks about me. And he just kept asking, he he asked another question, Who told you you had to do that? And I was like, What do you mean? Who told me I had to do that? Of course I have to do that. If I don’t do it, who else is gonna do it? The family will fall apart. Well, and he just kept repeating the question, Who told you you had to do that? And I thought about it and I was like, No one told me, no one sat me down and said, Hey, this is your role, this is what you have to do. It was that moment I was walking with my mum, and I made the decision that like I need to do something about this because this isn’t fair, and this is an injustice, and my family don’t need to be suffering, and I somehow felt like I was the one who could save them. So then it started helping me seeing that I see that I took on this savior complex or this um persona that I am so significant that I can save everyone, and the more I saw that, the more I started seeing how I was handicapping everyone. It’s like I would always just kind of jump in with a solution, I would fix everything, and I wouldn’t really leave them the space to fall and figure it out and kind of so I was creating this dependence and then being upset with them for having this dependence. So that was the beginning of me starting to see all of the different facets of this persona or identity that was at Daku or Linda at the time.
So um it sounds a bit of codependency. Is that similar to what he explained to you? Where you almost people are dependent on your help, and and without that help, you didn’t feel the significance. There’s like a a given play, like there’s a play going on here with codependency, and that it is a common uh concept with women in particular, uh, and a lot of us fall into recovery to try to identify what belief system was in the driver’s seat that promoted this persona. Did you ever identify the belief system in your in your work with the coach?
Um, I’ve I had a fundamental belief that I wasn’t lovable unless I was doing some things, you know. So um that came from the fact that I I was one of seven, and my mom, I observed my mom being so nurturing to my siblings and not being nurturing to me. So I personalized that that there must be something wrong with me, or she doesn’t love me. So, in order for me to stake my role in this family, I have to show my value, and then I exerted myself to be this person that it’s like, look at what I’m doing for everyone, look how valuable I am. And and so it was the I’m not I’m not lovable, so in order for me to be lovable, I have to prove my worth, and that’s where it stemmed from.
And I relate because that was exactly how I would get my father’s attention. My father was a perfectionist and a super high achiever, and he kind of in subconsciously, because it was all subconscious, he kind of promoted that with the three siblings. Like the more you achieve, the more attention I’ll give you. So then now it became a competition between myself and the siblings, right? And since I was the oldest and I was very per like my perseverance was unmatched, I could go forever, like, but then the body exhausts itself, right? I came to a turning, a health turning point that just kind of stopped me dead in my tracks, and it forced me to re-evaluate the direction of my life. For you, it sounds like that pivotal moment was the depression and the suicide ideation, and it humbled you, which needed to humble you to a degree so that you could turn inward. It sounds like you turned inward for those answers. Can you share a little bit more about that journey?
Yeah, so absolutely. Um, I whenever I share, like, oh, I was oppressed and suicidal, people are like, oh my gosh, I’m so sorry. And I’m like, Don’t be, I’m so happy, you know. I need it, I was so hard-headed. I will, it’s almost like so. I I share the one thing my mom did was introduce me and my siblings to meditation when I was eight years old. And she would say to me, The kingdom of God exists within you, and speak to God like He’s your father, and any anything you want, you can create, and everything external is um an illusion. So I grew up um having quiet days on Sunday, and whenever I would go to her and was struggling with something, she would say, Turn within. So I always had this um ref internal reflection um as a baseline, but I was I couldn’t understand how sometimes I would be able to turn within and feel like I was getting guidance and felt really safe and protected, and then other times I would flip into this angry, controlling, um, irritable version of myself. And I would say to my mum, why am I like this sometimes and like this other times? And when I hit depression, to me, it was like I was saying to God, Why am I like this? and she I felt like God lifted me and smashed me against the wall because that’s the only way that I would receive the message. And when I started working with a coach and started identifying all of these beliefs and seeing how they were manifesting in who I thought I was, and therefore how I was showing up, and therefore the results I was producing, I was like, Oh, it makes sense. The mind has a mind of its own, and when I’m able to be fully present and not connected from the mind, I’m not pulled from pillow to post for it with all of these defense mechanisms from all of these decisions that I’ve made in the past. So the more I can identify the mechanics of my mind and my beliefs, and I can free myself from them, the more I get to align to this higher self. So depression was definitely the catalyst to be able to allow me to distinguish what those two sides were, and then working with a coach and working, being reflective in myself because I came became borderline obsessed about okay, well, if I’ve created this, I want to figure out how to get to the root of that, and that meant that like every moment of every day, every time something wasn’t working. So the reason I drew the company to 2.4 million is because I was looking at okay, what is my block? How am I showing up that’s limiting this? Rather than oh, what strategy do I need to learn? It’s like, no, my external reality reflects reflects what’s going on inside, and if I can unlock the blind spot that is having me interpret something in a certain way that is not conducive to me moving forward into growth, then I can move that. And then when I did, things would just flow through, whether that was healthier relationships, whether that was more confidence, whether that was business success, and that just kind of became the path. So um, yeah, I think that the it was definitely a pivotal moment that needed to happen because I was so hard-headed, and then when it did happen, I was open to seeing, and then that’s when I discovered oh, there’s two different experiences I’m having internally, and I have the power and the control to be able to tip it to whichever side I prefer.
Yes, well you I’m going to highlight what you just said at the end. There is a conflict when change occurs. A conflict. I describe it in my book in Faith I Thrive as the ego and the soul kind of battling it out. In biblical concepts, it’s the flesh. The sins of the flesh is in direct conflict with being spirit-led. So your soul is trying to lead you into your light, and then we’re so hard-headed that and so sinful that the flesh kind of pulls us in the opposite direction. And we are not to do whatever we want, we are not to engage with those passions, but rather be spirit-led. And that’s what Galatians 5.17 talks about. And it sounds like you started to be spirit-led. You gotta start tuning inward and asking God, okay, show me, reveal to me, you know, what I’m doing, what’s my block? And then, of course, when we invite God in, He does reveal. It’s rather easy to see or to hear, because once we start seeing, we’re seeing spiritually now. Now we’re seeing inside of our soul, and we’re seeing just the choices we’ve been making all along that have put us in precisely this position we’re in now, and what we can do differently. So, share with us some of those tips that you um that wisdom that you gained from this point on to like really landing in a in a softer, more joyful space.
Um, so the so it’s hard to say the tip because depending on the trigger or the circumstance, the insight and the wisdom and the steps is always gonna be different. So I always say the emotions are a gift from God that are either um showing you when you are operating in or out of alignment to who you’re truly supposed to be, which is your higher self. So every time I was triggered, one thing I learned is when you ask your brain a question like a computer, it will go and search, like Google, and it will give you the answer. So when I started asking myself, so for example, one of the things I realized is that I would go through this yo-yo of like having lots of money and then being broke and having lots of money. So I would sit and I would say, Why, if I’m a creator of my experience, why am I creating this? How does it serve me to do this? And what came through was when I have money, everyone wants something, and I feel pressure to give to everyone because I didn’t know how to say no. So the easier thing to do was get rid of the money and be like, uh can’t help because as you can see, my but I can show you, my bank account is like nearly on zero. And being able to identify and see that and bring that awareness in, it was like, Oh, if I like why I can’t just say no, why can’t I just learn how to say no to create stability in my finances? So then that gave me seeing what I was doing and why I was doing it gave me the access into what I needed to do to get a different outcome, and then like doing the new thing is hard because your whole identity, your brain has been surviving based on all of these rules and these patterns. So going against it feels like death to yours. It’s like the first time I said no, I was stuttering and shaking, and then I’d say it, and the end it wasn’t the end of the world, and you know, and that’s gave me confidence to continue to lean into the aligned actions that would get me the results, and that’s how things started shifting. So it’s there are there are multiple insights and outcomes that can create. I guess the first thing I would say is um be pay attention to your emotions because they have data. So whenever you’re feeling any low vibrational emotion from boredom to frustration to anger, that is you projecting some form of belief or story in. And if you follow it through, you’ll operate in limitation and you’re going to create results that you don’t want. And once you identify, once you’ve you’ve paid attention to the low vibrational emotion, the next step would be to ask yourself, what am I making it mean? What is the story that is having me be triggered rather than focusing it externally? So earlier on, I said when I started working with a coach, I was blaming my family rather than looking at what am I contributing to this? And the more I take it away from what’s going on externally, to how am I creating this and seeing ah, this is what I’m up to, that gives me the access to well, if this is what I’m creating, what’s the opposite of that that will give me the outcome I do want, and then taking the action. So those are the kind of tools that I or the steps or phases that I go through every time I’m triggered, which is a lot of times during the day.
So I love what you’re saying, and I do want to point some things out and and really bring them out to for the audience to hear. What I heard you say is you ask yourself the question, how am I contributing to this situation instead of blaming? We we often fall into the blame game because we’re in victim mode versus the victor mode, which is the higher part of we’re surviving instead of thriving, basically. And what I also heard you say was, what do I start doing or continue doing or stop doing? And that’s something I’ve always coached on as well, because you’re trying to create for those listening new neural pathways. You’re programming, you’ve been programming your mind to respond in a certain way, it’s just doing its job, it’s done a phenomenal job for you subconsciously, but now it’s about being present in the moment and asking yourself those questions and then seeing where the answers from within come in, and then it’s making a list of what am I what do I need to stop doing immediately? Like stop blaming people, in your case, probably like stop and start taking ownership. What is my role in this? What can I continue doing so that I can move through these shift and reframe these thoughts that come at me? Because when we reframe the thought, then the feeling doesn’t even occur, right? It’s we have to stop it at the thought, we have to identify the belief. Once we identify the belief, we Can just simply shift it over and then start making a very conscious effort to think uh about good and noble things instead of trying to find the negative because our minds are conditioned for those listening to look for the negative constantly, the negative bias, it’s always there. What coaches will often tell you, both Adaku and I will coach patients or you know clients on is you got to focus your mind on the good things, you gotta focus your mind on the goal, you gotta focus your mind on the vision that you want to create for your life, because the mind does not know the difference between something that is imagined and something that’s actually happened, and so that’s really important, and it actually comes from biblical from scripture. A lot of this information that psychology uses, both in coaching and in therapy, comes from biblical standards. Like you you hear it in Philippians. Think of good and noble things, don’t think of bad circumstances. And who was the author of that? It was Paul. The apostle Paul was in a prison for the majority of the New Testament. All these letters he wrote, he was writing them from prison. Do you know how horrible that must have been like? The dire circumstances, and yet he found joy. How do you do that? And it’s because you’ve got to focus the mind. Or the mind will do it, it’ll go fall back into old patterns really quickly because you it’s had so many years of operating that way. So when you go through change, it’s important to give yourself tons of grace because it’s gonna take a while for you to create these new habits and to stop the thought. And even when you fail, just get up and do it again, you know, and don’t beat yourself up because I know you. I thought, God, I bet you were the type that would beat yourself up because you were a high achiever. And if you failed, that was that was just terrible for us. I would berate myself. I don’t know about you, but I know I get I was super bad at that. Did you do that to yourself initially?
Initially, I think I was just so excited that um I I did I I didn’t, which is not all a lot of my clients do. I think I because I was so frustrated for so long, I was like, oh my gosh, I I can identify what is happening, and oops, I did I missed it. Oh, let me try again. So it became this kind of playful game, but I do I think what you said at the end is pertinent because like the brain, we have about 3,000 thoughts an hour, and 95% of everything the mind does is unconscious, and 70 to 80 percent of that is limiting belief. So when we’re in negativity and fear mode, the more than we’re not, and I think that sometimes I meet people who are like I’m always happy or I’m always in gratitude, and I’m like, you’re enlightened, then you know, you’re not human anymore. So it is that kind of um being aware and conscious that this is just the practice, it’s just like going to the gym. The more you work at it, the easier it gets to catch it. But a lot of the times the things that you’re creating are subconscious, and and that’s a lot of the times why affirmations don’t work because you’re saying affirmations in the mirror, I’m gonna be rich, I’m gonna be rich, I’m gonna be rich. You’ve been saying them for 10 years and you’re not rich because you have a whole bunch of thoughts that are validating all the reasons why money is not gonna come to you, and money is evil, and all of those things. So you’ve got to work not just in the mirror when you’re doing affirmations, but in every single moment of the day, which is why I think connecting to emotions and being like, Oh, I felt a tiny twinge of envy. Let me look at that. Oh, I felt a tiny twinge of irritation, and it could be something from losing the keys to someone not serving you the way that you want to, from you beating yourself up for forgetting something, those are all opportunities to like ask your mind the question, like, what’s going on in that subconscious mind? And it will always give you the answer. So, luckily, I think maybe because of the the dire straits I was in with my mental health, that I was like, I just need to figure this mind out. So it it it wasn’t there, wasn’t a goal, it just became um it became a practice, and a lot of first world daughters that I work with come in and they’re like, I need to fix myself, and I’m like, uh we kind of need to let go of that. There isn’t a destination, you just gotta be on it.
I totally agree with you. There is no destination, and when you set yourself up for that trap, you you will constantly fall into that trap. I know I have that’s been my trap is oh, I’m gonna get to this higher space, and then I’m not gonna feel bad anymore. That’s not how that works. We’re constantly leveling up, we’re so we’re constantly in growth mode, especially here on earth. I call when we physically die, I call it a graduation into heaven. And my husband’s like, Why do you say that? That sounds so weird. And I said, Well, think about it. You know, to your higher level of consciousness, you don’t ever stop growing, you’re always mastering a brand new skill, and your mind is so vast, there’s so many layers to this thing, you know. And I have found that the more I’ve turned inward, the less hard it becomes. You’re you now have formed the identity of someone that asks the question, why did I get triggered? What was it about that feeling? What did that person say that triggered me? And just stay curious about it instead of pushing through it, like we used to push through it and just achieve and avoid our pain, and that was an avoidance pain. Now we’re moving towards pleasure, which in neurolinguistic programming is something that people work on. I’m more faith-based, so I’m like you, and that I look to it like what is my higher self? Who am I coming? If I want to be more like Christ, how do I become more like him? What reveal to me God? And I ask him every day, reveal to me what is in disalignment to that higher person. Show me, and sometimes it’s like, you want to know? Here, let me show you. And it’s at times it can be hard to hear, but the more you do it, like you said, the more you practice it, the easier it becomes within you, and it feels like in alignment. But you’re right, that’s why affirmations don’t work because if you’re still feeling those things and those beliefs are still operating within you, it doesn’t matter how many times you affirm it, you will always project what’s on the inside. So that’s why we want to change from the inside out, and that’s that whole concept. We don’t do it backwards, it’s not outside in, inside out. And because what we feel on the inside is what we project outward, that’s why we are stuck in our circumstances if we don’t work through these feelings and and work with our subconscious mind, with our the conscious ability of our mind. And when they start working together, that’s when the full alignment comes into play. And we find that ego, soul, and spirit are one, and that’s when things really start to flow. So now tell us where you’ve landed, who you we’ve heard that you work with firstborn daughters. Tell us more about the work you’re currently doing and how we can find you if we we choose to work with you.
Um, so yes, I work with firstborn daughters. Um, after kind of taking myself through this change journey, I developed a methodology that allows people to understand the key steps that they need to do to break their triggers and align to um their higher selves, and that kind of results in in rapid change in every facet of their lives. So I decided to niche the firstborn daughters because two of my clients um within a period of two or three weeks asked me to get coaching on their relationship with their firstborn daughters, and I was able to reflect to them how they were repeating some of the things that they were frustrated about in terms of their relationship dynamics with their parents, and even though they had come a long way in the healing of those dynamics, they were replaying it with their children. And I thought, oh, if this is happening with their firstborn, let me step back. They’re also firstborns, and then I realized wow, all of the clients I’ve been working with for the last five to six years are firstborn. So I have been attracting firstborn daughters, whether they’re the only girl, the youngest girl of boys, or the eldest girl, um, all of these years and didn’t even realize. And so I typed it into Google firstborn daughter, and I realized that there was research that was done on eldest daughter syndrome that came out, and it was focused on eldest daughters. But I’m like, this is affecting every type of firstborn woman, and and so I thought, okay, well, maybe I’ve gone through this journey when they say your pain becomes your purpose of being the firstborn of my family, to being able to, because firstborn daughters are really tough, they are the ones who are usually right in their uh situations, so to be able to, and a lot of my clients have said to me that they there’s not really many people that can kind of pierce through and get to the like vulnerable, soft, gushy side of them. So I’m like, okay, well, let me be the firstborn daughter coach and create a community of these women that are doing the work to heal. A lot of them come to me with, I want to grow my business, and they grow their business, but they do that by looking at those patterns that they’ve gained from that birth order and seeing how it’s limiting them in those in the goals that they want, and as a byproduct of shifting who they are, every part of their life changes. So the community is called the Healed Hero community because I feel like all firstborn daughters are heroes, um, and anyone that has them in their life is lucky to have them. My website is www.hieldhero.com. I’m on most social media platforms: Instagram, LinkedIn, um, as Adaku Mbagu, and yeah, that’s how you can find me, and that’s the work I’m doing.
Fantastic. Thank you so much for joining us on release out reveal purpose. Adaku, you’ve had so many proofs of wisdom that we’ve shared with firstborn daughters. I learned a lot as a firstborn daughter. I need to connect you to someone that I recently interviewed, Dr. Allison Alfred. Um, she did research and her book that just released um in February of this year is called uh um daughtering. It’s on the concept of daughtering. First daughters um take take on this role, not so much in the younger years, in the later years, is where her research is developed. Um, and so you two need to meet because there could be a major collaboration between Dr. Alfred and yourself. Um, and she’s still in launch mode. Her book is still in launch mode. It would be a beautiful book for you to buy. It is available on Amazon internationally, so you you since you’re in Mexico, you’ll be able to do that. Um and any last words of encouragement that you want to leave us with?
Uh, the thing I usually like to leave people with is um if you’re currently going through something, remember a time that you were going through something and you overcame it and you are grateful for what you went through because you need it, you became a new version of yourself or you learned lessons that you wouldn’t have learned had you not go through that, gone through that. And I think if we can be it’s hard in the midst of challenge to be able to see, like, I know this is happening for me. So I just want to leave if anyone is in a situation now where they’re feeling confused, stuck, are just struggling, are in pain, so understand that like this could be happening for you. And if you ask the question, how is this serving me? How is this serving me? It may accelerate your ability to get out of it because you will get the lessons quicker instead of having to wait and um for the pain to be prolonged. So that’s the only thing that I would want to leave everyone with.
Amazing, thank you so much. And for the listeners who release that reveal purpose, remember Matthew 5.14 to be the light. E the light like a duck with the light. Ask yourself the hard questions, don’t be afraid. And if you need help, ask for help. She asked for help and she was able to get to the root cause of what was happening in her life so that she could gain um in alignment with her divine purpose, and that was to step fully into a role in helping firstborn daughters. Like she needed that help, she became the solution. And you have gifts inside of you that God has given you that have yet to be discovered. Discover them and then do them on purpose, and just be the light for others to follow. Have a wonderful week. Stay safe, love y’all. Bye now.
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