A crown sounds like a costume until you realize it can be a mirror. Sylvia Worsham sits down with Holly Fair, a speaker and coach who decided to wear a literal crown everywhere for 730 days and ended up rewriting the story she’d believed about herself for decades. The result isn’t a gimmick. It’s a practical, emotional, faith-rooted conversation about identity, self-worth, and the moment when your purpose feels possible again.
Holly shares the hard parts with real honesty: childhood sexual abuse, the shame and silence that shaped her early beliefs, and how those labels echoed into adulthood through loneliness, failed relationships, and the sense that her voice didn’t matter. She also opens up about infertility, an ectopic pregnancy, and a long season of depression that left her disconnected from life and from herself. We talk about what it means to feel abandoned in the dark, how faith and free will intersect, and why “I am” statements can either trap you or set you free.
Then the shift: a Tony Robbins event, a question asked onstage, and Holly’s defining declaration, “I am a queen.” We dig into what she means by that, how she chose to define “queen” as gracious and inclusive, and how this identity became a daily filter for decisions, boundaries, and confidence. You’ll also hear the health side of the transformation, including her multi-year weight loss journey, sustainable habit change, and holistic nutrition focused on inflammation and consistency.
If you’re rebuilding after grief, trying to stop shrinking, or ready to step into a clearer calling, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a review so more women can remember they already have a seat at the table.
To connect or work with Queen Holly Fair visit her website at: https://.fireuplife.com
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Transcript:
If you’ve ever struggled with fear, doubt, or worry and wondering what your true purpose was all about, this podcast is for you. In this show, your host, Sylvia Warsham, will interview elite experts and ordinary people that have created extraordinary lives. So here’s your host, Sylvia Warsham.
Hey my brain host, it’s Sylvia Warsham. Welcome to Release Out Reveal Purpose. And today is Queen Holly Fair. And I am saying that very specifically because we’re going to be talking about identities. Now, she identifies as a queen. I identify as the daughter of a king, so that makes me what? A princess. And so I wear a crown every day because I have a seat at the table with the my co-heir, which is Christ. And that is a big deal. Now, I didn’t believe that for a long time. In fact, I believed I wasn’t worthy unless I cheat. I wasn’t worthy unless I had a big paycheck. And I tied my worth, my significance to that. And I know some women on the other side of this interview possibly don’t feel themselves worthy enough to wear a crown. But you are. You are worthy. You’re worthy just because you’re his child. You’re already worthy to wear the cream, the queen or the princess crown just now, without having to do anything to earn that. Because that’s the good news, is that you don’t have to do any of that. He loves you, anyways. He loves you. He’s always been there with you. And Holly, when I wrote read her biography on Pod Match, I was blown away. Because she was in the dark space. And then on stage with Tony Robbins, she found that epiphany that she is a queen. And when she believed that to her core, everything shifted. Everything shifts. When beliefs get shift from I’m not enough to I am enough. Let me explain something on air. That cage that you put yourself under that cloud, that dark space, it just starts to lift ever so slowly, but it does. Because with every identification of every belief that is not yours, that cage keeps on lifting more and more until one day you’re operating from the freedom from that fear and into a space of joy and presence and surrender to your your divine cult and divine identity. And when that happens, everything is in full alignment. All those things that were once in your path that were negative suddenly do not have that power over you anymore. So without further ado, thank you so much for joining us, Queen Holly, on release summer. It’s great to have you. And I didn’t have her to wear the crown, y’all, because you gotta wear the crown. Call yourself queen, you gotta wear your crown and wear something.
And a fun story, I actually wore this everywhere I went, and I traveled around the world doing and this was I’m talking going to the grocery store, weeding my front yard, going to the gym, running. I wore it everywhere for 730 days straight. Wow. And I could tell you, I had a lot of looks and comments. I a lot of times I would get, oh, is it your birthday? Which then I was able to say, No, I’m living my queen life. And I’m not the queen, I’m a queen, and you know, you’re a queen, and you’re a king, and we all have this royal birthright. And it so it was a gift, and this helped to anchor in my known, like true essence of this is who I am, to where now I it’s cool because I will walk into the real room without my crown on and I’ll have people say, Wow, you’ve got a queen energy about you, and it’s like, oh, thanks.
Yeah, I don’t have a physical representation because I embody it.
Right, exactly.
And was that the whole purpose of the 730 days? Why 730 days? I’m curious.
Well, it it was just shy of two years. I I I started as a fun, like photo op thing. I, you know, I’m queen, so I’m gonna get this crown, and I took it on a trip to Paris, and we were in this old, you know, castle y place, and so I was posing for pictures, and I had so many people comment, like, oh, that’s really cool, that I thought, huh, this could be a fun experiment. So I’m gonna wear it everywhere I go for a month. That turned into three months, which then turned into a year, which turned into almost two years, and it got to the point where I realized I don’t need this anymore. It had almost become a um like a security blanket. Yeah. For those of us, you know, in sort of my age range, a whoopie, if you remember.
Well, from Snoopy, like Snoopy, what’s his name? Um, is it Linus?
Linus, it came to a security blanket. I mean, we grew up. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. So now I put it on for fun things for photos, for podcasts, for giving speeches, you know, presentations and things.
And it is a fun gig. It’s funny how some experiments turn into a life calling. Uh-huh.
Yeah.
I find that so interesting. Um, I know that as a life coach, I didn’t come into the John Maxwell team to be a life coach. In fact, coaching was like the least of my favorites what they were training us on. Um, I came to be a speaker and I got certified as a as a speaker, and then of course, coach and trainer came as well because it’s part of the training and you have to get certified, but it wasn’t what I was intending to do. And then came a client that had heard a prompting from God say you need to reach out to Sylvia to for her to be your coach, and that’s how I stepped into life coaching. At first, I was like, I don’t want to do this, and God’s like, Well, I have a different plans for you, right? Snack direction of yourself, and you are going to do it, and it’s like, okay, and that client stayed with me for three years, but it gave me that taste, and then the more I coached, the more people came to me and said, My goodness, you have a an intuitiveness to you that it’s eerie. How you can be a vessel, it’s eerie, yes, and I’m being a vessel, yeah. And I I am a vessel here on the podcast for the Holy Spirit to step in and say and guide because he’s his knowledge is way bigger than mine and yours put together. Right. He sees into the intentions of everyone that’s listening and all the prayers that he’s listening to, and this is an answered prayer, this conversation for people on the other side. Um we are simply a small piece of a big plan that we don’t see sometimes unless we sit back and reflect and see how his hand has been in certain circumstances of our life, you know, and I’m sure he’s been in in your life and how you’ve you’ve managed to come out of a fairly dark space. Can you speak a little bit about that dark space and and the steps that that led you to this divine calling?
Yeah, I have a history. There was childhood sexual abuse, and that really um before the show, we were talking about how when we’re young we take on these labels and these uh different meanings to things. And so I believed from an early age that I was unworthy, my voice didn’t matter, and I carried that with me. But like I really believed that nobody wanted to be my friend, no one liked me. And it was a lot of it was because you know, back in the 80s when this happened, it wasn’t talked about like it is today. And my parents, in effort to protect me, said, you know, let’s not talk, we we don’t talk about this. Don’t tell your friends, you know, don’t tell people. And I I understand their intention now. At the time though, I believed there was something shameful about me, and and oh, if they know I’m I’ll be tainted and ugly and and so by doing that, I built walls and I didn’t let people really get to know me. I wasn’t able to be the full expression of me. And I’m a delightful person. So I yeah, and I can say that with not in a boastful way, but in an in an yes, I own that, that gift that you know life is life is great. And so growing up in that way, I had a couple of failed marriages, and when I say failed, that’s probably a harsh term because I know I learned from them. And so, you know, they were part of the plan, and and I’m you know in a much better place with the man of my dreams now. Then I had waited to have children until everything on paper was right. I you know, was married to the right guy, my career was in place, you know, I had the education, we had the house, like all of the things. And unfortunately, my body wasn’t wanting to be as receptive to this. Oh, okay, you know, it’s time. I was able to get pregnant after some struggles, and then it was an ectopic pregnancy for two weeks of bliss. I was pregnant, and I was so like I was happier than I’d ever been in my life. And then to be told, sorry, we had to terminate the pregnancy. Sorry, that was devastating, and I was I was filled with sorrow at the same time. Okay, gotta get back on the horse, and you know, before because at this point I was in my early 40s, I was 40, and did all the in vitro uh spent tens of thousands of dollars on that, and it didn’t work. So during that time, there was a period of about two years that I didn’t do much aside from sleep and kind of phoned in my job. I was an online professor and I’d been doing it for so many years that I it wasn’t hard or challenging anymore, and I just did, I just skated by, I did the bare minimum. Well, I gained a ton of weight, you know, and I I like to say, and some of it was hormones. That was my big excuse. Oh, well, you know, it’s all these hormones. It was also me laying in my bed wallowing, being sad, crying, no exercise, eating myself into a stupor, and I was extremely unhealthy. I got up to 276 pounds. Yeah, so it was hard to move, and uh life was bleak. My poor husband, you know, bless his heart, he felt like he hadn’t just lost a baby, he’d lost his partner too, because I was so disconnected. And in one of my Netflix-induced comas, I saw a Tony Robbins documentary on Netflix called I’m Not Your Guru. And it is about a six-day event day with destiny and it how it changes lives. And I told Jamie, my husband, I’m like, we’ve got to watch this. And we watched it, and at the end I said, We’re going. We’re going to the next one. And we did. And on the very last day of the six days, and it’s all about rewriting your blueprint, uh, looking at what is important, what what your rules are. You know, our rules to be happy, all of these things have to happen in order for us to be happy, yet for us to be sad or upset or angry, anything can happen. You can be cut off in traffic and your whole day is ruined. So it’s about figuring out, okay, let me have a bigger menu for my happiness than I have for my upset. And also looking at and being accountable for wow, the life I want to live is not on the other side of me being in bed all day. I have a bigger purpose. I have that, I have that divine calling. And the last day Tony called me up on stage, and in front of 5,000 people, had me do this uh process, this integration process. And one of the questions he asked was, What would you have to forget to go back to living that old sad life? And in all my glory, I said, I would have to forget that I am a queen. And I ceremoniously crowned my own head, and I walked, I tromped that stage with my invisible scepter, and the crowd, people were on their feet, they were on their chairs, cheering, screaming for me. Like it was so moving. And in that instant, I saw that wow, they’re all on my team, and I’m on theirs. Yeah, and so that former belief of I’m not worthy, nobody likes me, shifted in it was instant. And I now walk into a room and instead of looking for people not to like me and give evidence, you know, that oh see, I’m I’m an outcast, I’m not, I’m not wanted. Now I walk into any room and my thought is you’re all friends. You just don’t know it yet, maybe, but you’re all my friends.
Yeah, you’re good people. You carry that inside of you, you’re good people, and I’m gonna assume that.
I want to assume positive intent. And that has looking for that has totally shifted how I live. And the the crown thing, you know, starting to wear this and and living, I realized that for me I wanted to figure out what kind of queen I am. You know, there’s there’s some controversy about queens, and I did run into this with a good friend of mine actually at the time. She said, Well, I know that the crown thing is your deal, but uh for me, there’s this imperialism and this uh, you know, the the whole, you know, cutting people down and subjection, and and I just don’t agree with that. And I thought, wow, okay. Okay, how do I, you know, that’s a valid. And at first I was like, What do you mean? You know, and I had to thank her later and say, Thank you for bringing that up because I hadn’t considered that, and I defined this queen for me. She is someone who is gracious, she is kind, she is generous, she is welcome, she her table expands, and everyone has a seat, everyone has a place, everyone is valued, you know. She walks with grace, she talks with grace, she dresses with grace, and so my whole being has shifted to now, okay. If I have a oh gosh, should I do that or not? Would a queen act like that? No, probably not. Okay, there’s my answer. Uh and it’s it’s really been a beautiful life change. Now I’m talking on Tony’s stage, and that has been something in being in his uh organization as a trainer now, and uh I’ve been able to also impact so many other lives through that work, and it’s you know, life is beautiful, it takes us down so many different directions, like you mentioned uh before, that you weren’t necessarily looking to be a life coach and look at you, and with God’s grace, here you are, and you’re changing lives.
And that’s how it begins in the dark. It’s interesting. The dark is when the light shines brighter, and that’s where God’s light shines very, very bright. It’s when we need it, when we need him, is when he I mean, he’s always been there. Here’s a here’s a concept that I think most people mess about him as that. Well, he abandoned me because I was in the dark. Right. It’s quite the opposite, actually. It’s like we have free will, we forget that. We have free will, and he can’t always stop us from making certain choices. Like he couldn’t stop me from making the choice of taking birth control pills, and then I ended up with Bud Carrie syndrome and pulmonary embolisms. It’s within the labeling of these products, right? That’s not that’s fault. That’s my choice, my choice, right? You chose to stay in bed for two years, yeah, you know, in the dark. That wasn’t his doing. He, I’m sure, kept trying to prompt you out of there. Yeah, but because the depression was so big, it was a big looming part of your identity at the time. Right, you couldn’t see beyond that.
Um I couldn’t allow myself to be happy.
No, no, because that identity will take over, and that’s the piece that I I wanted to explore a little bit more on the identity piece, because the power of the word I am, now I am, it comes from biblical times, right? So this is over 2,000 years ago. These concepts that these big, you know, life coaches out there, like Tony Robbins and John Maxwell and all these guys that are out there, it doesn’t uh it comes from biblical perspective. A lot of it, if you read scripture, it talks about vision, like creating these visions, uh, creating these identities, having purpose. All of these things that these guys talk about, it’s it’s old school stuff. It’s just expand in their own language.
But I and I find it beautiful that the message can be delivered and is being delivered in so many different voices to where there are people who are going to resonate with a Tony Robbins versus like a Joe Dispenza, uh, you know, versus like you or I. Yeah. And it where it’s the same overarching message of beauty that is being you know, promoted, palatable, and and resonates with different people.
Well, because we the way we’re gifted, Holly, is very unique. Our voice is extremely unique. That’s when people don’t realize how unique it is. And our journey, our redemptive pieces, the broken pieces, he takes those broken pieces that he creates a masterpiece from it. And that’s that journey of life that we take, these failures, quote unquote, like you mentioned earlier, is not really a failure if you learned a lesson.
Yeah, exactly.
If you learn the lesson and you apply it right now, oh my gosh, that is blah blah. He’s like cheering you from heaven saying, That’s my girl. Good girl.
Yeah, part of the grander plan, yeah. There was a reason, and now you’re reaping the rewards.
Yes, and and sometimes we get in our own way, and we we we take these major detours uh away from our joy and away from our identity and divine calling when we allow doubt to kind of keep us there longer. And I know you had that pivotal moment that night that you’re watching Netflix into another Netflix coma. I I will tell you, I’ve been I’ve been guilty of the Netflix coma when I um after I lost my baby. Uh my children I had a miscarriage, and I was an older mom. Um, so this would have been in my 40s. Um, I ended up being able to carry children, but it initially, because of the pulmonary embolisms, there was a high risk of me not being able to carry a child again biologically, and my um hematologist was like, no, no, no, you can do Lobinox shots, which is what I would inject myself, and I look like I’d been beat up. So I couldn’t ever do those pictures, you know, those modern pictures with everybody showing their bellies. I was like, no, I could not because I would have looked like a battered wife because it’s a bloodthinner that keeps me from developing blood clots, right?
Right, so you bruise easily.
I bruised, and everywhere I injected, and I had to pick different. Sites every time I would have looked like my husband would have beating me up, so that was so none of those. None of that would have mattered, but yeah, I I lost a baby and and I went into that Netflix comb. I just watched and watched and watched, but I’m sure that you there was something inside of you that said, Stop. Like, you did you hear his voice? Did you just say, Hey, we gotta, because I know you shared it, like, hey, we gotta go and we gotta do this. Yeah.
How long between that show and you guys actually showing up? That was in August, and the event is held every December, and so there were a few months, and I had started, you know, and my big thing was I knew I needed to lose weight. I was way, you know, I was in the morbidly obese category. Wow. And so unhealthy. And I have a little granddaughter. My husband was married before and has two adult children, and got a little uh couple grandkids, and my granddaughter, I was over at a the there’s a school across the street from us, and we were playing on the playground, and I realized I couldn’t keep up with her. It was hard just to watch her play, you know, and you know, it was time, and so I I came up with okay, these are kind of the things that I want. And when I went into the event, they have you fill out a questionnaire of you know, what what are your goals and how would you know that this was successful, that you’ve reached your goals. And my big goal was to be able to walk down the diaper aisle and not cry. And I achieved even more than that, you know, as as we find when we follow that divine plan. Uh and I after the event, I got a personal trainer and I did the nutritionist and dietitian and blood work with my doctor to make sure everything was okay and worked really, really hard. And I went from 276 to 130. That’s awesome. Yeah, and over over several years it wasn’t a fast process.
No, baby steps.
Yeah, it was one day at a time. Yeah, yeah. I it took a while to get there, and so it was going to take a while to to get it off, and and I achieved that, and I’ve been able to stay. I have I’ve got a window of five pounds, you know, that I keep it in so that I know, okay, you know, I exercise a little bit more.
Yeah.
Or or I, you know, I sort of too um follow a uh, I wouldn’t call him a dietitian because he’s not a nutritionist, but he’s got his PhD in microbiology, and so he knows about food groups and what causes inflammation. That’s been his main um deal of study, and he teaches the nutrition class over at the chiropractic school in Katy, Texas. Oh, and so I came into his sphere because of a pickleball body of mine that talked about him. She’s a chiropractor herself, and she’s in perfect form. You see her, and you’re like, You’re how old? She doesn’t look her age at all. You know, and she’s in awesome form, and she’s in our work with Dr. Ronald Grobowski, and I’m like, okay. And I was starting the perimenopausal menopausal journey, and since I can’t take hormonal stuff because of my pulmonary embolism history, I go the holistic route, and I’m like, oh, this is gonna be interesting. Um, because I’ve done you know everything from acupuncture to uh nutrition to I exercise at least uh five times a week, play a lot of pickleball. That’s a source of joy for me. Good, yeah, yeah. I should wear a crown as I’m sorry, as I’m playing pickleball. And he had me do a test to pull up all the foods that were causing inflammation inside my body, uh-huh. And then said, Okay, these are your green foods, these are your yellow foods, so you can eat them every so often, moderate amounts, and then red foods for sure never touch them again. And for me, it was chickpeas, and I don’t like chickpeas, so I was like, Yeah, no problem. That’s easy, that’s easy enough. And that was the only thing on the list for red, but I had orange and yellow and green that I could eat, uh-huh. And I started to like drop because now it was like easier, right?
And you were, yeah, you were mindfully eating.
Yes, yes, and because you want to be out there to the best of your ability, and if you can’t even move because your joints are like so stiff from the amount of sugar you’re ingesting, and I didn’t realize how much sugar I was eating on the just from the processed foods and uh the cleaners, it’s in everything. I’m like, how am I supposed to drink my coffee? And he’s like, You’re oh, by the way, he goes, You only get one cup of coffee a day. And I’m like, Yeah, am I gonna straight up? Well, I don’t know. I found Kremlers, it just took a while. It took a while. Oh, okay, to find the right one. To find the right ones, but what I love about your story, Holly, is that you didn’t give up, number one. For two years, you kind of did, but we all fall into those traps. We all go through that, and I know that women listening on the other side of those that had trouble getting pregnant are gonna really and and maybe never had the opportunity to be parents, but you did because you had adult children, and that’s still a blessing. Yes, yeah, you have to be a parent to them. You can’t just think, oh, is that that’s my husband’s kids? No, when you marry a spouse, you marry everything about it.
They are great kids, they they really are, and and it’s interesting at the time though, I was kind of keeping them at bay because I was gonna have my baby and it was gonna be perfect, and I had all the plans of things that we were going to do. I was gonna be the the neat mom that you know did the art classes and the languages and travel and you know all of those, had the slumber parties here and the cookie baking and the craft.
Yeah. And and what and that shifted to what? Like at one point, like when you realize this was not gonna work, how did you shift that mindset over to your grown children?
It was just I was so sad and felt like felt like God didn’t love me. You know, it was that that dark night of the soul where you know I was alone and all and see that sexual abuse that happened as a kid, you know, you weren’t say good enough to be protected as a little kid, so why should you bring a child into the world? Like so all of those voices and the negativity and the the upset and the the wounds became gaping and seeping, and just you know, I was living that. Um I now am on the other side of it, and I can see and I’ve I’ve communicated with her. Her name was Is Aurora, and she’s given me the message that she came to me to be that catalyst for what I was meant to be. That was her purpose and her soul’s purpose, and so now I live my life in a way that I am able to impact even more people than I would have, because I just know me, I would have been so involved. I probably would have been that obnoxious parent that everybody, uh you know, it’s just you’re about your kid all the time. Um I get it. And I now have the time, but she would be uh 10 this year. Uh I now have the time though to travel and to have my own business and to speak, you know, and to answer your adult children and your grandchildren.
Right exactly, you know, and have that, you know, space to do that, but more importantly, because of your plan. And I do want to share a story that’s coming up to my awareness because it is a full alignment to his plan. My mother was very upset with God in one period of her life, and she revealed it to me just very recently when um she said she was really angry with him because she prayed that my father wouldn’t be sent to Vietnam. And then he was, and so he abandoned her. And how could he do that to her? You know, and how how could he be exposing? And and she was just so terrified of him not being able to come back alive, right? And I sat there and I listened to her, just like right now. I just my my heart broke as you were speaking, but the fact that your daughter has spoken to you in dreams and in visions and your hard space, that’s also the Holy Spirit like embracing you in his love. Like, this isn’t there’s a bigger plan here that I don’t, you know, Christ didn’t understand the Father’s will like while he was here, he even prayed to get out of the cross if it was within God’s will. But there is a bigger purpose and a bigger reason that we can’t comprehend at times, and most of us feel abandoned, and that’s natural, right? And so the one thing that came to mind as she was speaking, a couple days later, we were having coffee. It was over Christmas, and I said, Mom, have you thought to think of all the mothers that prayed for their uh sons to be safe in war? And she just kind of like sat back with our coffee. No, I said, Well, Daddy was so good at what he did, Mama. He was an amazing surgeon, and he was sent to Vietnam to be a surgeon to save lives, American lives. And those mothers’ prayers, they went, they didn’t go unheard or unlistened to. He heard them and he provided a solution in my father. And you know, he died because of a tumor that developed because of the service in Vietnam. Um, two years ago, um, it’ll be two years on Father’s Day this year. And my mother sat back and tears were like streaming down her face, just like your tears were streaming earlier, you know, of like how your daughter just said, Mom, I’m okay. Like I’m in heaven and I’m just waiting for you, you know, and and I’ve served my purpose, and and you now need to serve yours to the best of your ability. Well, my father served to the best of his ability, you know, and he was tasked to be a surgeon ever since he was a little boy. He knew he was going to be a doctor by the age of seven. You don’t know those things unless God plants that desire in your heart. God planted a desire in your heart to be this amazing queen, Holly, to other women that are seeking that groundship because they have forgotten who they are because of the circumstances that happened to them as they were growing up. You know, in your alignment, in my alignment, you’d be surprised I have an 11-year-old daughter.
Oh.
Okay. So we I was 40 when I had her. I’m turning 52 this year.
So we’re our alignment is 7, I’m 51. Yeah.
So I’m a year ahead of you, right? But I did lose a baby. I was devastating because my husband had never had biological children, and and we and I did not know if I could carry. And I remember being told that in the hospital when I was facing the pulmonary emblisms, and the resident walked into my room and he said, You may not be able to carry biological children. And I was dating him. And I was like, This dude’s gonna leave me because who would want that? Like someone who’s had that dream, and I remember I I couldn’t even look at him. And I was like, tears were streaming down my face, and I was just like, Can he just leave, you know? And and he was like, So go look at me. I don’t want to I don’t want to because I don’t want to hear, like, this isn’t for me, or this is too much, or and I just sat there and I was like, and I looked at him and he said, You don’t have anything to worry about because we already have a son. I had a boy for my first marriage, because we already have a son, and that’s enough. And I just like like my heart is like, wow, I if it could expand more to have more love for that man, they needed to because that merited that, right? Yeah, but where we broke is where he routines us. Notice that though, look, look how what happened with your daughter and how she came to you, and it was the worst time of your life. I mean, like the worst thing that’s happened to you, and God’s like, I love you too much for you to feel that, to feel like I’ve abandoned you because I I never do. I I I can’t. You’re you’re my child, and you I’ve chosen you to step into this role to lead other women powerfully so that they can fulfill their divine calling. Because if they don’t believe it, they can’t step into it.
Right.
Right. So next steps. What do you think your next level up is? Where where do you think he’s leading you?
Speaking on more stages, uh getting the message out and uh really amplifying it’s it’s for me. I coach women, it’s and it’s about society breaks us down, you know, where there’s been all of the patriarchy, you know, women are good enough, you know, you know, listen to your husband, obey you know, your leaders and all that, and we owe it to each other to lift each other up, to be that voice, that mirror to reflect back their true essence and their purposes, and it you know, if I see another queen with a crown, it’s not like hey hey, you know, your crown, like guys, you know, men joke about it’s like if there’s something wrong with somebody, that’s their new nickname, right? Yeah, well with women, we are too sensitive, and it’s like, no, I’m not gonna make fun, I’m gonna help you straighten that, I’m gonna help you polish that. I’m gonna remind you that you are a queen, that you matter, you are beautiful, you have purpose, you have gifts, and you do belong, have a seat at the table. You deserve to take up space in this world instead of shrinking and being what oh, you know, someone’s mom or wife or employee. It’s it’s you you have your own gorgeous identity, yes, essence that shines.
You’re the daughter of a king. You’re the daughter of a king, you’re already there.
You have a crown. Yeah, regardless of anything else, yeah. You are you are worthy. And and for me, I think that the royal came because um, you know, uh not feeling enough. Well, just feeling enough to me wasn’t it’s like, eh, it’s enough. It’s like a five out of ten. I wanted to be that 20, you know, it’s like like I am not just enough, I am more than enough, I am regal. You know, there it’s that that stratospheric leap from you know being a negative 10 to whoa, I love that. I matter, and I find that being able to take a compliment, you know, so many women shy away from the compliments, uh, you know, oh I love your dress, oh this little thing, you know. I’ve had we diminish when someone tries to to say something nice. Women out there, stop doing that. Yeah, take the compliments, feel them, like like breathe it in and know that there’s a beauty about you, and it, you know, and it’s not just the physical things when some oh you’re so kind, oh I I just did what anyone did. Well, no, because not anyone would have done it. No, because you have the right heart and the right spirit, and we’re guided to help. And so, yeah, you matter, thank you, and be able to take that in.
Yeah, yeah, and thank you for that reminder because the other day a good friend of mine, it was when was it Tuesday, I think? And she’s like, You’re uh she’s a best-selling author, and she was like introducing me, and I just got really shy around that. I don’t know, because it’s it’s complete strangers to me. And and she’s like, she’s a podcast host and she’s really good, you know? And I’m like, Yeah, come on. And and she’s like, wow, you you should be proud of that. Like, oh she’s like one of my pick up our partners. I’m like, okay, deep proud. So I think he sent you to me this morning to just say, baby girl, stand proud because what you have done should not be like you don’t diminish that. Exactly. We did this together, we need to show it to the world. It’s okay. You know, it’s okay that you did something, you know.
And you’re the accomplishments that she was praising are things that were hard-earned. Like you it you didn’t just overnight become you know, published author and podcaster, like no, you it’s taking time and thread and energy and energy and and probably some sleepless nights of you know how am I gonna make this all work? And you’re doing it and and you’re living that purpose and you’re inspiring others. So yeah, yeah, all of us. Own it, own it, own it, own our worth, accept the compliments, and give the compliments. Yeah, see someone who’s doing something great. Uh the the person at the the cashier at the grocery store. Wow, you are so pleasant, you know, you’ve made this a nice experience for me. Oh, well, thanks. Yeah. There and they you’re taken aback because they don’t hear the nice things.
No, they hear where they need to improve.
Oh, yeah, it’s oh, you’re not fast enough, or oh, you gave me the wrong change, or whatever. And it’s like okay. Spread that joy, be that light.
Yeah.
Be the light. You know, you talk about being being the light of Christ and and reflecting that to people. Do be that hand that that uplifts people and show through your actions and your your presence with people, your genuine smile, that they matter, that they they wore it, they have worth to get a smile from you and and your time and a glance and a kind word.
I’m gonna end it here, Holly. Okay I do want to know. I do want to know if we wanted to hire you to be on our stage, how do we find you?
Find me on my website, fireuplife.com. That is just how it sounds, f-i-r-e, fireup-up, life, l-i-f e dot com. And there’s a page about speaking. You’re welcome to go there and and let me know that you came in from this podcast because Sylvia’s amazing and and yeah, love to spread the word and also give you kudos too.
Oh, thank you, Holly. And of course, the same goes here. The next time I see you on the stage, I’ll be like rearranging your crown. Yes, yes, come on, girl. You got this. You got this, you know, you’ll be fine. And I’m so grateful that you were on my show this morning. Um now it’s turned into afternoon, but uh for the listeners of release that reveal purpose, you know how I always sign off, is to remember Matthew 5.14 to be the light. Be the light, like Collie and I have been the light in our worlds. Get out of your way, step out of that darkness, and you have the power because God has given it to you. It is a gift he’s already given to you because you are his chosen one, he has redeemed you, you are his child, you are his new creation, and when he died for us on the cross, our old identities died along with it. We forget that. You know, we don’t have to wear those identities anymore, we don’t have to live them out. We can step firmly and confidently and wear our crown with pride, like Queen Hollyfair has done throughout this entire interview. So remember that the next time you want to tell yourself that you are rejected or not good enough or not worthy enough. Remember this interview and remember both Holly and I telling you that as queens, as daughters of the king, you are just as much of a daughter as we are, and so you already have a crown. Yeah. Have a wonderful and safe rest of your week. Love you. Be blessed, everyone. Bye now.
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