Fear has a sneaky way of dressing up like productivity. You work harder, achieve more, take care of everyone else, and still feel the quiet pressure to prove you’re worthy of love, safety, and belonging.
From Austin, Texas, I sit down with Camilla Calberg in Denmark to talk about what happens when that old pattern finally breaks and what it takes to rebuild your inner life with intention.
Camilla shares how childhood comparison and high expectations shaped her identity, drove her to big corporate success, and then spilled over into relationships, where people-pleasing and low standards became painful lessons.
When a long court battle and intense stress pushed her to the edge, she faced a choice many of us recognize: collapse, run, or learn emotional regulation in real time. We unpack the practical tools that helped her shift, including “pick a better feeling story” and her surprisingly effective method for scheduling worry by telling intrusive thoughts, “the shop is closed.”
If you’re navigating anxiety, trauma recovery, toxic relationship patterns, or leadership pressure while trying to stay grounded, this conversation offers a clear path forward.
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Transcript:
If you’ve ever struggled with fear, doubt, or worry and wondering what your true purpose was all about, then this podcast is for you. In this show, your host, Sylvia Warsham, will interview elite experts and ordinary people that have created extraordinary lives. So here’s your host, Sylvia Warsham.
Hey light bringers, it’s Sylvia Warsham. Welcome to Release That Reveal Purpose. And today is Camilla Kahlberg. And she’s in Denmark, of all places. And here I am in good old Austin, Texas. It’s 40 degrees. I’m sure it’s not, I’m sure it’s cold in Denmark. Maybe it’s not. But um Camilla and I have gone back and forth the last couple of weeks. But when I read her message on Putmatch, something inside of me went, huh? Like, why now? Why is this uh this person being interviewed on this podcast now? And as I read her story, I understood why. Because just in the last week, I had a conflict that dealt with striving to feel worthiness. And when I reread her pod match introduction to me, it talks exactly about that. That ever since she was a little kid, she compared herself to her sister that she thought was more deserving and more worthy than her for whatever reason, right? We all grow up and our minds um believe these lies, and our mind really is doing its job to protect us when we’re little. But as we grow, that lie follows us and follows us into the world we live in presently. So it’s really important for us as individuals that to heal those parts of us so that they don’t continue informing our choices, right? Because they inform everything in our life. They inform why we end up in corporate America and striving to feel worthy, um, much like I did, much like Camilla did. And then we hit this major milestone, this this crossroads that just like knocks us down and makes us and forces us to see our life through a different lens, through the lens of a higher self, a higher level of consciousness, a higher level of thinking. And when we reach that that site, it only levels up from that point. We can’t go back to the old way of being because we have seen the difference, who we can be and who we once were. And with that introduction, I want to say hi to Camilla. Thank you so much for joining us, or at least at Reveal Purpose.
Thank you very much, Sylvia. I’m so happy to be here, feel blessed. And what a what a lovely and very deep introduction to this conversation.
Yes, and I felt it as soon as I said it. Like I feel the confirmation from the Holy Spirit that there is some wisdom you’re gonna share that not only is going to impact my listeners, but it’s gonna impact me personally based on what happened last week. And I’m blessed that today of all days I get to hear your beautiful voice and your amazing story of transformation. So please guide us into what happened uh in that crossroads and that that transformation that you you came out of to learn where you’re at today.
Yeah, thank you. So okay, so we get to go back to childhood, and the reason why we have to go back to childhood is actually from zero to seven years, that’s where our belief systems are formed and our kind of identity. And growing up with a hardworking mom, breadwinner, then um I always felt that my sister was just brighter than me. I had I was telling myself that I had to work harder, and I saw my mom how hard she worked, so I worked really hard. Um, and the reason why I share this, I mean I think at least my clients are have been hard-working um schoolgirls who wanted to prove that they were okay. In eighth grade grade, that’s kind of the very first kind of friction point. A history teacher told me I wanted to go abroad to study, and he said, You’re never gonna do it. And that is that you’re not gonna tell me that I’m not gonna succeed. So I did everything to to pump up my grades. Short story long, that drive to prove that I was worthy, got me to study in the UK, got me to very young to have an MBIA, ending up in BPCL and IBM. So I’ve been I’ve been working like really the in the doer mode to be very successful. On the outside, I looked Sylvia as though I had it all. I had it all, I had these international jobs, the car, the money, but I was uh I was lonely within. And my friends settled down with families, and I was really I I was thriving in that international environment, and people started to look as at me as being different. My mom would say in IBM, when are you going to have a real job? What is a real job, right? And when are you going to settle down, right? So, and when here’s what because now I held women in that same way when you start people start to see you as different, you’ll start to also feel different. So I was telling myself that I’m going to have a family uh and I wait for men to get divorced. Like because, and then I was deep within telling myself that I was not worthy enough to find love. So I actually, my lower self now we know we’re all that deep inner work, you don’t get what you you want, but you get who you are. So I manifested men who were also hurt in their life, and someone had to be a victim, and someone had to be uh more dominating. I always ended up being a and I was a people pleaser and not treated well. Uh and that we had talked about it just before, and now it’s just showing up. Maybe some of your listeners know Amanda Francis, but a very successful young entrepreneur who did a training the other day, and he said, Your lowest standard well is what is blocking you for your next level of success. And I had to go back and say, What is my lowest standard? What am I available for? And I was available to be manipulated with I was in in relationships, I was available to be treated not well, physically and emotionally not well, and um it also um kind of manifested in relationship, not not intimate relationship with who I serve, the toxic leaders, but then short story to really where everything got to a very dark place and then turned out to be the blessing for me is that I’m manifested um a relationship with a soul who was also hurt, and now I know like Kabbalah that that is this soul in my life was here to help me uh correct something, and I had no boundaries, I was a people pleaser, but we ended up after for me years prolonging to decouple, it was my choice, and a couple of months later he chose to open a court file. Do we say that in Danish, but actually in English, right? So we I thought it was going to be a very nice, friendly decouple. We ended up in court for more than four years with court hearings. My daughter at that point in time was six, going to court and witness against because she’s also been a receiver of psychological abuse because she saw me not setting healthy boundaries. And when all that started, I just knew he came from a very hell wealthy family. Money’s not a problem. That is not my background. So I just knew I I needed. Here’s the need. I needed some very good lawyers on my team. And that was the darkest moment in my life because she was crushing to PTSD. There was so much stress. I mean, I was so I was so nervous that I could literally pull out my hair. I could sit with my hair in my hand. That’s how stressed was. And in all this, to make a long story short, I could either choose to go underground, I could flee to a country far away, but that was not how I wanted to be a mom. Or I could learn to regulate my emotions. I could learn to be a let it just go, surrender. And uh and that was my um, that was the trample in into understanding afterwards. What does it mean when you cannot control your thoughts? What does it mean when you when you believe your negative thoughts? They’re all lies, but when you believe that, that’s what you’re gonna manifest. And in court, and that’s what the penny dropped. We talked about energies, and I was sitting there crying, and I had a downbreak, uh, what do we call it? A nervous breakdown in court, so nervous, and then we talked about energies, and I was sitting there and saying, Why? Not I’m not thinking, why on earth do I have to witness having a conversation with lawyers on energy? And energy is contagious, and if I don’t level up, it would impact my daughter even more. Why do I have to have that very important conversation in court when we don’t talk about it anywhere else? And I think subconsciously is that I need to break, not break, I need to bring this very, very important message to control yourself because it will sabotage your your chick kids, and it’s something that we’re doing ourselves a disservice if we don’t learn to regulate our emotions immediately. That’s became my blessing, and now I held women leaders. Um I also have men on my uh on my mailing list, but primarily women who are very successful as me on the outside. But childhood trauma, um relationship trauma, and letting their emotions and the body control them rather than actually they being greater than the body.
I can relate to some of these stories, not to the nervous breakdown part of it, but I can relate to the part where you’re talking about energy, the the choices that you have as you’re facing a turning point, as you’re facing a moment that is going to define your future from this point on. Like, what do I do from this point moving forward? And I know that the listeners are gonna want to understand how did you pick yourself up? Like, what what were the small steps that you took to start reframing how you viewed the situation, how you viewed energy, because there’s so many people that don’t even know what that first step looks like. Can you dive a little bit deeper into that?
I’d love to okay. That was this, and I kind of almost see it in my mind’s eye. That was I had a coaching session one day, and my then partner we we decouple were just moving 100 meters away from me. We thought that was a glory to decoupling, right? Turn out to be the living experience. But so he I would call it stalking, and I call I felt he was stalking, look overviewing a lot, not overview, um, observing us almost. I felt 24-7. And I had this conversation with my mentor, and I said, This he’d just been here once again today, and I don’t know how to cope with this. And she said, Camilla, what if you could pick a better feeling story? A better feeling story is a story that makes you feel better. So the story I was telling myself and I believed in. So you see, uh, what happens you probably can relate, we more believe in our own stories that we tell ourselves, our own narratives, than what everyone else tells us. And we don’t oftentimes don’t go and validate what we think to be true, but I believed all my inner stories to be true. But then she and that was the moment where I in that spot got trained to pick a better feeling story, even though I didn’t validate. I felt that he was talking us, but it didn’t, I made myself a disservice of right choosing a bit belief or a story that didn’t set me up for success. It made me more sad, anxious, and um taking care of a six-year-old uh old daughter, and I couldn’t even take care of myself. I mean, if we lead have to lead others, we have to lead ourselves first. I couldn’t even lead myself. I just had to believe in what she was teaching me, pick a better feeling story, even though it’s so difficult in that moment. Okay, he’s he’s he’s missing his daughter. I didn’t believe that, but I had to tell myself, all right, now he’s here again, he’s missing he’s missing his daughter, and that’s one very simple example of choosing a better feeling story, another uh tool I was uh I’m beginning giving my clients, and so happy to share with your listeners. So we have all these um uh trains of thoughts. How do you pack that so you don’t so they don’t disrupt you? So what I learned, so I had a lot of different people on my I called my professional team to help me build me up, but they come with the keys, I have to do the work myself, eh? And then there was this one very easy to apply and so powerful tool. Every time I thought I was thinking of thought that I of a situation or concern about the court case, I would tell myself, hey thought, right now the shop is closed, come back Thursday between nine and ten, because then that’s where the shop is open. I literally packed any thought that was about the court case till Thursday when the shop was open between nine and ten. And I will sit every Thursday between nine and ten and invite all my fears, all my concerns in, and sometimes I will have a have a chat, it was more than a chat, with uh one of my mentors. But that’s very powerful to pack any thought and story that doesn’t set you up for success. Get them out of the way. The shop is closed, come back on Thursday.
Wow, so very powerful. Two techniques that really helped you start moving from that notice breakdown to re first the reframe, looking at it through the lens of his compassion and love for his daughter, as opposed to the scary aspect of stalking, right? And then the second bit is to uh put into compartments your thoughts, like schedule your thoughts to come to you at a time when your mind was fresh, I’m assuming, and that you could handle that, and because that’s how energy works, right? And in certain individuals, is that in certain parts of your day, or even in their design, energy can be very flowy for some people and for others, if you don’t guard that energy by inviting all these thoughts all day, every day, you get drained throughout the day. Is that correct? Yeah, I so true. Okay. And so by saying, okay, I want to deal with you because you’re important, right? Because you’re gonna teach me something, thought, just not right now. Because right now I’m focused on moving the needle forward in my life. I’m I need some space, whatever the gist may be. It sounds like if you were busy doing something else and it was gonna come and interrupt your day, it was not the right time, it was not in the right alignment to to what was happening for you. Does that is that would that be a true statement to make?
Yeah, it is, and I think just want to double down on that energy because any thought that disrupts us, that that dis um yeah um defocus uh uh defocus the focus, or this thought where my worry that I couldn’t control is draining, and where focus goes, energy flows. And if I started to feel some with feeling in motion is emotion. So if I was starting to go on that tank a tangent of what would happen next week, what I have to prepare my daughter to go to court or I could suddenly, if I didn’t compare compartmentalize my thoughts, I would suddenly spend a lot of time on the worrying and not so much time on serving clients and what I needed to do. And it takes here’s because I had to learn about energy and the when you worry, you s even though you just spend 10 minutes, you it feel you get you may it may really drain you, and it takes more than 10 minutes to to rejuvenate. So that’s why I just really because I was measuring how long does it actually take to go back into flow, more than 10 minutes, and then when you just say okay, not right now, because that’s something that is more important than worrying. It that was my way of coming from surviving to thriving during that very challenging season in my life.
How long did that season go for, Camilla?
Uh almost five years.
Almost five years. And where and at what point during those five years did you start to reframe this these thoughts?
In the beginning in year one, in year zero. Okay.
Okay.
And immediately when I when I got that in I call it invitation to God, let’s meet in God, I immediately um pulled people in who can help me because I would never be able to navigate such a case on my own, be uh it would be impossible. Yeah.
Okay. I was just curious, like at what point or how long of a stress level did it take you to start reframing those songs? But it sounds like from the get-go, you said, no, I I can’t I can’t do this to my daughter who’s watching because modeling, right?
Yeah, and couldn’t do it as a mom. I mean, I was too, I don’t know what the right word is. Uh, but you’re uh you’re being asked, okay, should you flee to Argentina? Why should you go? I don’t want to go underground. Why should I? I’m too worthy to to let other people dictate how I should enjoy my life. I don’t think I enjoy it, it could say enjoy, but no, I think it was not even my daughter. It was like I was just about to say, but no, do I’m not giving up. Not I want to learn to thrive in this situation.
No, because if you can learn to thrive in the storms of life, then when you’re not in the middle of a storm, you really are just like in such a joyful state flowing through life in in full alignment. Um, it makes you appreciate the times that you are not in conflict, that there’s no big storms, right? It kind of increases our gratitude for those moments of joy that God gives us every day, despite the storms we’re in. There’s always something beautiful to be thankful for. I mean, we just came out of the Thanksgiving um holiday here in the United States, and it’s it’s a time to really reflect on the blessings of your life. And you still have the blessing of your daughter, you know, coming out of a toxic relationship, right? As you were speaking, I was brought back to several teachings I got years back. Uh, in some of my training, I trained under someone that had been a trainer for um Tony Robbins. Neuro linguistic programming, I think, has a lot of these concepts. And as you were speaking, the three things that that popped in my awareness were you created a vision for what you wanted your life to be like. It sounds like it sounds like you you you went through this dark period where you contemplated like a negative vision, but then you also said, No, but that’s not what I want this. So it’s like the desires of your heart. And what it sounds like is that you had a very powerful purpose that propelled you from that nervous breakdown into this vision fully, like where you’re just like, I’ve got to learn how to regulate these emotions that um are taking over my life. I I want to be able to identify these thoughts and invite them and learn from them, but not allow them to take over my narrative. And then it sounds like you created the identity of the person that did these things daily. It became almost like a practice of sorts, didn’t it?
It did. I didn’t, I think it’s very good how you put it together. For me, in the beginning, it was just survival. I needed, but it was a practice. I started meditating, I started to really be curious about what I was thinking, and it became my my mission to learn to scan my thoughts in the moment. So I went from nil understanding of emotional intelligence to learning it because we were discussing it in court.
Okay, and the lawyers were like, oh, we need to discuss energy. And tell us a bit more about what you learned as you navigated these chapters. Like, what did you learn about energy? What did you learn about emotions and taking those thoughts captive in the moment?
Yeah, oh wow. Um I think we talked about it just before we went on uh that uh about being a person who can sense or being sensational, you can pick up energy um in the room. And I’ve been that person that I call it aura, aura, aura, and I could I could feel that aura before he even when he was walking up the stairs. I could feel that energy before he even entered the house. But nobody really understood what it was, and I didn’t I I had no idea about what this energy was all about. So then I met a psych um a therapist and we thought she understood what I was talking about, and then I started to understand about energies, contagious. But what I learned and what everyone told told me that was also the lawyers when you ubregulate when you find peace and harmony, you will reset your daughter. This is so deep, and I’m sweating almost all right because we don’t need therapists when we as mums or dads learn to regulate our emotions in the moment and stay in flow. I almost I would say 90% healed my daughter going back into floor because I went back into floor. So when I was a victim of my own emotions, I’ve been 10 years in this psychological violent relationship. A lot of I don’t want to share, I don’t know if I should share here, but there’s something that is so disgusting that I’ve been that I I was available for. I didn’t know how to say no. But I I I was I tolerated way too much. So I had a very low self. But you don’t get what you want, you get who you are. So my daughter saw how I allowed myself to be a traitor. Not everything, but carrying these wounds. Discussing all this with therapists, she said, when you upregulate, they said it in court. My mentor said it, when you learn to be in flow, learn about abundance, learn about tapping into high levels of energy and be grateful and whatever the case is, it’s just it just is. Don’t give meaning to that. If you give it meaning, give it love, don’t give it a grassion, right? Because it tears us down. I had to learn it. I didn’t really understand it, but I was just so blindly following everyone on my team. And as I was for coming back, as now as I was finding center within my daughter was the first one to say, Mommy, you’re happier. I got my curls back. She started to feel happier, she started to ground, and then I said, Okay, is if it if that goes that fast, I am the source to more success. I and from that point I could not, and you said it so beautifully in the in the intro, I could not I could not stop evolving because I had a responsibility to to help my daughter through this mess. I could not I could not give up. I could not retreat.
Wow. Powerful, really powerful, and thank you for having the courage to share that. Because I know these are darker chapters, these are not easy things to discuss live. Um with a truth be told, a complete stranger, because I’m a complete stranger to you. Yeah, I’m not your family, but you’re trusting that this information is going to be held in the regard with with so much care that it deserves, right? That you’re that you’re sharing this wisdom with someone that could be navigating through something similar and saying, Listen, if I can do this, who had no idea about emotional intelligence from one day to the next, just make the decision, reframe it, and say, uh I I am becoming someone because you took your lower level of consciousness and you said, I am manifesting what I don’t want. So what and then so do it for you, right? And then you said, but this is what I want. And so you started to set yourself up for success because you decided, you made a decision. It was an inner decision, nobody else made that for you. You had to decide. Kind of brings me back to what you and I were discussing at the beginning before we even started recording the conflict of last week, of me coming to a realization of like, why do I strive so much for love in others when I already have that love? What’s why am I doing that? You know, and you have to ask yourself those hard questions and and and move through the emotions so that you know you recruit your thoughts and and and you ask them to teach you like, what are you trying to teach me about this moment, about this conflict? Because there’s always a lesson we learn in conflict, right? You used it through energy. I go directly to God and say, there is something in this conflict that you wish to use for your purpose to make me more like you, because I’ve asked for that. See, at the beginning of 2024, I asked God to reveal to me how I could be more like Him, what I needed to shed, and what I needed to shed was my pride, I needed to shed my anxiety because those were the strongholds, the traps I would continuously fall into that the enemy would use time and time again. I was almost like, why am I falling into the same trap? But it’s because I hadn’t decided. Once I made that decision, once I stayed focused on God Himself, on the goal of becoming more like Him, then it was about staying obedient to that voice that said, Okay, you want to be more like me? All right. Realize that this is gonna take some work because you know I can give you the direction, but it’s up to you to make the decision to actually do it. Right? And you did that too. You you heard that voice and you stayed obedient and curious to that voice that said, you need to learn how to regulate your emotions, or your daughter’s gonna live with this for the rest of her life, and her PTSD is only gonna get worse.
Exactly.
And when we love, that’s why love never fails. That’s why love kicks fear out the door, it just kicks it out completely. They can’t survive in the same space. They can’t, it’s like, okay. That’s why we feel that conflict, that’s why that inner turmoil inside of us is so great, because we have the the part of ourselves, the lower consciousness, the the desires of the flesh that are in total conflict to what the soul and spirit is leading you to. Like every I love the verse that says, every hair on your head is counted. Like he knows everything about you, he loves you so much that he doesn’t want you feeling like this ever. It hurts him to see you like that. Hurts him to see me like that, like questioning my worth. He’s like, Are you crazy? I love you, I’m showing you. Look, look at the blessings around you. If I didn’t love you, why would you have all this? Right? We forget sometimes to look, you know, around and reframe that um that narrative. That narrative, why are we beating ourselves up? The other verse that really struck out to me this morning is I was praying, because I have an entire notebook as I was reading the Bible, the first go around ever, like for someone like me, that people must think I read the Bible, I’ve read it all my life. No, I didn’t. The first go-around was when I first uh when I read uh wrote my first manuscript. Um and he and the voice said, Oh, you need to include scripture. And I’m like, I don’t know scripture, how am I supposed to include this? And he’s like, You don’t worry about that. That’s my doing. You worry about just staying obedient to what I’m telling you to do, uh, which is what sounded like with you, right? Um, and the verse was basically talking about fear and this morning, and it talked about um now I’ve lost my train of thought, but it had a lot to do with fear and love, and how they just you know they can’t coexist, and love just never ever fails. Love is what’s going to propel us forward, love is what’s going to um get us out of the darkness and into our light. And I just um I’m I feel blessed that you came on the podcast today of all days. I think your story really resonates in a time when um women in particular feel that need to strive, feel that need to people please because we’re the nurturers, and we sometimes confuse nurturing for people pleasing, and it’s not the same. Um in the Bible, it actually talks about being peacemakers, not people pleasers. People pleasers is from the fallen world. Peacemakers is someone that in your mind you’re reconciling those stories, the old story and the new one. You’re you’re forming that bridge that says, he’s not stalking me, he loves and misses his daughter. Yeah. Um it brought me back to the first trauma with my father. I remember hearing the same concept, saying, You’re you’re remembering all the negative things of that story. Now I want you to surrender that peace, I let it go, and now think of all the good things that did happen that day. And and then it started to shift everything in my mind, right? And it took all the like I stopped crying about it altogether. And the more I did that, I found that it it got me out of that energetic holding self, kind of like the cage I put myself in in the victimhood. Does that sound like what happened to you?
Yeah. It does. And there’s there’s two things that shows up, but this victimhood unless we attend what I pick up is that we want to we love pity partying, we love being victims because that’s where pe we people get to see us, and in a world that is so busy, sometimes that’s the best thing we can do because then people come and then not let they sympathize with you, they don’t empathize with you because people will empathize will pull you up. So this oh I’m it’s me, it’s oh I so sad. It feels nice, but you don’t grow. I’ve definitely been in that pity partying and victimhood, and that’s also one of very good tools. You’re the average of the five people you see the most. So you look in your tribe. So if you’re going through a very difficult moment, do you surround yourself with people who pull you pull you off or just manifest what you’re already saying? If they do, then find someone else, but find a better tribe. Right, and then just doubling, yeah, not doubling down on this fear in love. It’s something I start training very early on because it’s like a poll. If fear and love is feelings, right? But in emotion, feelings emotion, you uh but they collide, they you can never feel fear, you can never feel fear and love at the same time, it’s impossible. But oftentimes, because we the ego is is drawn to the fear, is protecting us, right? But the soul is love, is surrendering, not that we just let say, but we’ve go with the flow, and that is the spirit, the spirituality that’s go with the flow with the love, the unconditional and loving, with integrity. I had to really learn, Sylvia. And I said to my clients, I’m always very open because if I should not be open inspired. For most of my life, I said I know what to be on integrity. I didn’t know what it was, what was my values? Did I really act as my highest self every single day? No. So, in all this, also came like love, unconditional loving. I want to, and I manifested a few years ago. I’m still practicing being unconditionally loving every single day.
Yeah, that’s a hard one. That’s a hard one because that one it’s hard when you think it’s hard. Like my husband said the other day, you’re making you’re complicating it. Keep it simple. Keep it simple. It’s it’s not hard until you tell yourself it’s hard. Then it’s hard.
Yeah, but it’s for me, it’s that of really connecting with when when you want to be right, right? That every time you’re being triggered because you want like if you have kids, but that is the journey to abundance, is to be unconditional, loving, whatever that is, you’re still happy with it, and that’s it. You don’t give it any meaning. For me, it’s not hard, but it it requires practice, put in the reps to be so conscious aware of how you show up every moment of the waking hours.
Yeah, yeah, like um, in my mind this morning, I was like, pick part of the fruit of the spirit. I had never read this in the Bible, the fruit of the spirit being peace, love, joy, forgiveness, patience, goodness, gentleness, self-control, and telling myself, choose two fruits of the spirit that you’re going to devote your presence to every single day. I mean, just you choose, and I chose kindness and gentleness. Kindness and gentleness, because my tone can be harsh sometimes when I’m frustrated. Uh, it can be moving my daughter along, like, hey, we’re busy, like we gotta go, you know, like good, you gotta move, you know. And and I caught myself early in the morning, and I thought, it’s too early for me to be this way. Like, why am I already feeling the need to be critical and judgy? Stay present, like there’s everything will be okay. Like, just relax. It’s just your thoughts, like hold them captive and just say, not right now, you’re not gonna overwhelm me. I’m not gonna allow you to overwhelm me right now. I’m going to enjoy this moment with my daughter. I’m gonna sit down and I’m gonna get emotional, and I’m gonna touch her hair, and I’m gonna kiss her cheek because I can, because she’s a blessing, and I don’t need to rush through my mornings anymore. There’s nothing. Why am I rushing? I’m rushing to get to the next and the next, and then and then where in all of that do we enjoy? We don’t because we’re so busy doing the next thing. Right. And um until this morning I just kind of caught myself and read it back in. And I walked up to my daughter and I said, I’m so sorry. I know I I sound harsh, don’t I? But I want to be the best mom possible. And I know I can do better. I know I can do better. I’ve done that before. I know I can do it again. You know, this time from a space of love, not out of fear, not because I don’t feel worthy, or I have to strive, or I just want to be here with you this moment, right now, you know, and so I did. I picked kindness and gentleness. But it does, it it takes practice. It does. And it takes practice not to make perfect, although in the Bible, perfect does not mean perfect the way it means to us here uh in humanity. Perfect means whole in the Bible, yeah. And I thought to myself, then I do want to practice to be whole, yeah. Right? I want to be practiced to make permanently my identity to be kind and gentle, to produce that spirit over and over and over again. When I catch myself, pull myself back, rein it in. Because I can. Yeah, I can choose. I can choose to step back and say, you know what? I overstepped my bounds. I I was unkind. That’s on me. I’m sorry. Please forgive me and move on. The old me. The old, the old me. Like I ugh, there she is, you know, why? Or even just sitting with her and explaining to her, I love you for teaching me what you taught me when I was a little kid, for protecting me. But it’s time for you to go. I mean, you’ll always be part of me, and I love you. But thank you. I just this pattern of behaving doesn’t fit with me anymore. It doesn’t. Then it’s time to move on. So if if people wanted to work with you in Denmark or anywhere that they’re hearing, and they because I’m I’m assuming you work online with clients, how what do you have a website? How do we reach you?
Yeah. I just want to first honor that you’re so so real, so human. It’s been such a blessing to be here and so deep, deeper than I anticipate. So thank you, Sylvia, for for being you. Um yes, how to reach out to me. So I work online, I have clients from the US, so time zone is not a an issue. Um there’s a few places you can find me, either on LinkedIn, there’s a lot of um teaching and training, uh YouTube. It’s I feel it’s Camilla Kalberg at Camilla Kalberg, uh, with some videos where you can get an even better feeling for for my style and uh also about energy and leadership. And um my website, Camilla Kalberg.com. Where you can for newsletter and book a consultation uh if that um speaks to people.
That’s awesome. Well, thank you so much for joining us. I release that reveal purpose, Camilla. Really? Um, it was a good lesson and energy that I needed today of all days. Uh a good lesson and a reminder of the things that were taught to me long ago that I had since forgotten, that now are the spirit is kind of leading me back to saying, Hey, you’ve already learned this, so just pick it up where you left it off. Um so I do thank you. Any last words of encouragement before we sign off?
There is a better version of you waiting on the other side of the and I just want to tap in, if I may, just one moment on the story. Is that when you choose to say, I no longer want to be this version of me, here’s what I did. I shared it first with my daughter. I decided I no longer want to talk to you like that. And when that happened, in that moment, I would say out loud, oh now the old Camilla’s here. Oh, welcome. So have to play with that, to have fun, because it does take time, it does take reps. It’s not some people reach out and say, think it’s a pill. It’s not a pill. We have to rewire our beliefs and just go for it. Your life is more wonderful, be more beautiful. There’s more freedom on the other side of who you are right now.
Beautiful. Thank you so much, Camilla, for that. I appreciate it very much. And I do agree with you to have a little bit more fun with our previous selves. Uh, so to bring some joy into the mix and letting that be such a downer and pity party, right? Victim, victim-wise. So, um, for the listeners of release now, you know how we sign off these podcast interviews to remember Matthew 5.14 to be the light, be your light, shine up brightly for all to see. We were created to with gifts that are so uniquely meant for us. Like I said earlier in the interview, every hair on your head is counted. That’s how beloved you are to God. And he wants to remind you that the light that he gifted you in your mother’s womb is the light you need to shine very brightly. Don’t allow the storms of this world to dampen your spirit, to dampen your light. Allow the storms to build your character, to build your your perseverance. And as you build on that, that will build your energy and you’re just gonna level up from that. You’re not gonna ever want to be the person you once were when you were broken inside. You’re gonna want to be this higher person, this this person that connects to a higher level of consciousness that is available to all of us should we choose to tap into it. Should we choose? And so always, always remember that you are beautiful, you’re bright to God, and you are you are worthy. So please stick around and share your gift with the world. Thank you, Camilla. Have a beautiful and blessed day, guys. Love y’all. Bye now.
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